It's hard for me to express my feelings well...

[Yasiru]

I have a problem in expressing my feelings to others. I can't convert my feelings to words well. And this has caused many misunderstandings about me. I just have it inside my mind, but i find it hard to express it to others well.
And this kind of made me un-open(emotionally) to others, becuase i fear that the other person will misunderstand me.
How can i improve my ability to express my feelings well. I really need some advice. Thanks.

[striving4peace]

One word: Practice.

Start small steps, keep building:
Start a journal or a blog - even if it's a private one.
Read more non-fiction books and increase your vocabulary on mental and emotional areas.
Talk to people you trust. The more they listen and give positive feedback (good luck with this one) the more you'll get encouraged to speak more and hence - the practice will increase your skill.

[Yasiru]

Guess traige is the key.
Thanks for the advice striving4peace.

[bbdream8]

Originally Posted by Yasiru

I have a problem in expressing my feelings to others. I can't convert my feelings to words well. And this has caused many misunderstandings about me. I just have it inside my mind, but i find it hard to express it to others well.
And this kind of made me un-open(emotionally) to others, becuase i fear that the other person will misunderstand me.
How can i improve my ability to express my feelings well. I really need some advice. Thanks.

Hi Yasiru,

Practice speaking in front of the mirror. Think of what you are going to say that day and practice it in front of the mirror. You can record down what you say and listen to it again to see whether your speech is concise enough to be understood.

Hope this helps

Cheers
Vincent
Personal Development Blogger

[JimOfferman]

Originally Posted by Yasiru

I can't convert my feelings to words well.

That may be because feelings don't translate to words very well. We have other tools to express our feelings - looks, touch, how we carry ourselves, etc. Your body language will take care of itself, most times.

Another thing to keep in mind is that when you feel something and then start to worry about whether or not someone else will get what you're feeling, then that worry is a feeling too. So, instead of your happiness shining through, what others are seeing is you worried (about whether or not people will see your happiness). The same will happen when you are angry, frustrated, in love, etc. - only reinforcing your idea that nobody understands your feelings.

Don't worry about your feelings, FEEL them.

[striving4peace]

The speaking in front of a mirror part - i did that, but when i needed to develop my public speaking skills. Try filiming yourself - i would get shocked at how much more I sucked in the beginning than I thought I did. But you pick up and work on things that you can't notice from inside your head.

Keeep this one for later - the mirror and film - it is good advice. For now Jim's advice is more relavant as the first one. Be clear on what you feel.

Tony Robbins said something on the lines of "how successful we are depends on communication. What we communicate to others, and more importantly - what we communicate to ourselves"

[evevera]

You don't need to express your feelings in words. Express them through your body language, your actions and the way you talk. I think 70% and more of our communication comes through via our body language. (don't remember exact statistic)