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10-20-2008, 07:52 AM
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 |  First impressions 101 - the art of being remembered
First Glance... That's all you get one take, one picture - that one glance can determine if you are seen as a sexual god or a mindless chump, as Brad Pitt or Steve Urkel. its important to know your first will be based on your physical appearance and your mannerism: cloths posture health facial expressions fitness voice tone and a whole lot more! What we are getting judged on is our overall attractiveness However by improving upon these things you can increase your approachable-ness by ten times Be Someone's Sun Imagine your the sun. Feel your rays shining, warming them up bringing some love and joy into there life. with this I mean radiate that glow to any and everybody you meet. Try this: go to the mall and walk around imagine your a warm fire of love and joy and see how peoples reactions to you seem to change instantly. Always Smile Not a cheesy kool-aid smile but a sly tongue-in-cheek, I have a secret kind of smile. This goes hand and hand with being the sun. Nothing brings joy more then a smile. again try it, go to the mall, and smile at people - smile is the biggest plague of them all, its so contagious. Talk to Everyone Nothing beats being friendly. Everywhere you go talk to people, say hi to strangers walking past you on the sidewalk approach the elderly person sitting in the park bench. Social proof is a great thing and when people see your talking to many people the first thing they ask themselves " what does he have?" it makes people what to talk to you to approach you, to be your friend its a wonderful thing. Dress to Impress I don't have to go on about this do I? your cloths play a big part in how people judge you. always look your best. Irons are your friends  Follow these tips and you my friends can start to have the first impressions that make people want to meet you! until we meet again love life, and be free -JB Last edited by Jr Billionaire; 10-20-2008 at 07:54 AM. |
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10-20-2008, 01:51 PM
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For months I was coming to work in jeans, trainers and tired old company T-shirts branded with the business logo. Some mornings I didn't shave, heck I didn't always have a shower. Basically I'd really let things slip. Today, my 10 year old beard has gone and I went to work in suit trousers, shoes and a smart blue shirt. I look different and feel different which means I am smiling more which radiates to those around me. I have every reason to be stressed but I'm not allowing it to affect my day.  |
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10-20-2008, 03:51 PM
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Great post overall, but I don't agree with this: Quote:
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10-20-2008, 06:47 PM
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thank you all for your kind words. Quote:
when your 'upset' there is nothing better you can do then to get out of your head and talk to everybody with a warm smile! next time you are upset go to the mall, and just talk to people | |
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10-20-2008, 07:28 PM
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It's not natural for me to be smiling all the time, so I don't. I don't think I would be improving my first impression with people by forcing a fake smile all the time. | |
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10-20-2008, 07:42 PM
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I agree with you Jim, smiling all the time would not suit you, it would look stupid. Not saying your smile looks stupid  you have a very charming natural smile. But your serious face is part of your artistic look. Makes you come across as "sensitive artist with depth suddenly releasing a butterfly in the sky when he smiles". (your smile reminds me of the fugacious moment when a butterfly leaves a flower to fly away) Shining like the sun all the time would destroy the effect. I think you're much more impressive when your face is grave, and your smile a hidden gift for those who touch you |
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10-20-2008, 09:51 PM
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LOL, Rose! I'm not sure I like the word "grave" in there. I would have used "stern" or something similar yet not reminding you of a funeral face (I sincerely hope I don't look that serious!)... but, otherwise, thanks! |
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10-20-2008, 10:10 PM
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No Jim, don't worry, you don't look that serious. It's just my bad English. "grave" in French means serious but tending more towards "thoughtful". "stern" is a good match I guess.
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10-22-2008, 09:53 AM
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JB, Man oh man, thank you. I went on your site and then came across the Million Dollar Experiment and am going to begin that today. Thank you for that! You and I seem to have so much in common it's freaky. We're both into teaching, pickup (or whatever you would like to call it), the 4 Hour Workweek, and MMA. Where in the world do you live? |
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10-22-2008, 04:56 PM
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MySpace.com - J. R. Billionaire - 19 - Male - VERO, Florida - www.myspace.com/71422571 thats my myspace hit me up -JB | |
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10-24-2008, 07:34 PM
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thanks everyone for the positive reviews Quote:
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10-26-2008, 08:04 PM
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Obviously don't force a big smile because they look cheesy and fake. Even if I meet someone and they give just a small smile it leaves me thinking "well, maybe they are actually a fun/happy person but were just having a bad day, i'll give them another chance". Obviously this is just my way of thinking - everyone is different! Plus, I always find that smiling, even when I don't feel like it, makes me feel better and more positive. But again, everyone is different! Quote:
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10-27-2008, 08:33 PM
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10-28-2008, 02:44 AM
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10-28-2008, 02:48 AM
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Yeah the eye contact thing is important,and that's probably another reason i fail is because that's one of the hardest things for me to do. I even have problems looking my family and friends in the eye for longer than 2 or 3 seconds at a time. I guess i kinda feel like if i look at them too long it's creepy or sexual (with non family member of the opposite sex anyway). How do you get over your fear of eye contact? I really need to work on that somehow.
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10-28-2008, 04:11 AM
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Jr Billionarie Can I first say I LOVE your nickname. LOVE IT! hahha In regards to what you said to make an impression ... I think you are spot on and I would also add its the energy that you give off when you enter a room and the way you carry yourself. I reckon when you have that, no matter what you are wearing, what you look like, you can still command the attention of the people in room when you walk in.. Its a confidence thing =) |
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look at my comment below... Quote:
its not rocket science most people are nice if you let them be. I want you to also realize that nothing works 100% of the time, if someone doesn't say hi back its not the end of the world I can pretty much guarantee that the next person will. The goal isn't to get people to say hi back, its to give your warmth from your sun to as many people as possible. if they rather be cold then let them. For trouble with eye contact I made a post here: Social Skills training the basic meat is you are already a top ten guy, you share alot of the same qualities that they have... whats the difference? They accept their fate as a 10 and you havn't... not yet make the choice to be a high status guy and eye contact will follow. Quote:
I don't think I have meet a Hot Alpha Female before... I think its time I did thats exactly what I meant when I said be some ones sun. if you have that warm feeling, that warm approach, everybody will love you no matter what, you are spot on Hot Alpha Female! thanks for the love hit me up on myspace -JB Last edited by Jr Billionaire; 10-28-2008 at 05:45 AM. | |||
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