First impressions 101 - the art of being remembered

[Jr Billionaire]

First Glance...

That's all you get one take, one picture - that one glance can determine if you are seen as a sexual god or a mindless chump, as Brad Pitt or Steve Urkel.

its important to know your first will be based on your physical appearance and your mannerism:

cloths
posture
health
facial expressions
fitness
voice tone

and a whole lot more!

What we are getting judged on is our overall attractiveness

However by improving upon these things you can increase your approachable-ness by ten times

Be Someone's Sun

Imagine your the sun. Feel your rays shining, warming them up bringing some love and joy into there life.

with this I mean radiate that glow to any and everybody you meet. Try this: go to the mall and walk around imagine your a warm fire of love and joy and see how peoples reactions to you seem to change instantly.

Always Smile

Not a cheesy kool-aid smile but a sly tongue-in-cheek, I have a secret kind of smile. This goes hand and hand with being the sun. Nothing brings joy more then a smile.

again try it, go to the mall, and smile at people - smile is the biggest plague of them all, its so contagious.

Talk to Everyone

Nothing beats being friendly. Everywhere you go talk to people, say hi to strangers walking past you on the sidewalk approach the elderly person sitting in the park bench. Social proof is a great thing and when people see your talking to many people the first thing they ask themselves " what does he have?" it makes people what to talk to you to approach you, to be your friend its a wonderful thing.

Dress to Impress

I don't have to go on about this do I? your cloths play a big part in how people judge you. always look your best. Irons are your friends

Follow these tips and you my friends can start to have the first impressions that make people want to meet you!

until we meet again

love life, and be free

-JB

[Akashic_Librarian]

What a great post. Simple. To the point. Unprententious.

Loved it, well done.

[Tuumble]

For months I was coming to work in jeans, trainers and tired old company T-shirts branded with the business logo.

Some mornings I didn't shave, heck I didn't always have a shower. Basically I'd really let things slip.

Today, my 10 year old beard has gone and I went to work in suit trousers, shoes and a smart blue shirt.

I look different and feel different which means I am smiling more which radiates to those around me. I have every reason to be stressed but I'm not allowing it to affect my day.

[JimOfferman]

Great post overall, but I don't agree with this:

Originally Posted by Jr Billionaire

Always Smile

Smile only when you feel like smiling, don't force it when you don't. A fake smile does not make for a good first impression - quite the opposite.

[Unik]

Good post.

I enjoyed it. Thanks...

[Jr Billionaire]

thank you all for your kind words.

Great post overall, but I don't agree with this:

Quote:
Originally Posted by Jr Billionaire View Post
Always Smile
Smile only when you feel like smiling, don't force it when you don't. A fake smile does not make for a good first impression - quite the opposite.

I like that you brought this up,

when your 'upset' there is nothing better you can do then to get out of your head and talk to everybody with a warm smile!

next time you are upset go to the mall, and just talk to people

[JimOfferman]

Originally Posted by Jr Billionaire

when your 'upset' there is nothing better you can do then to get out of your head and talk to everybody with a warm smile!

I wasn't talking about being upset, I was talking about smiling when you don't feel like smiling.

It's not natural for me to be smiling all the time, so I don't. I don't think I would be improving my first impression with people by forcing a fake smile all the time.

[Rose of Cairo]

I agree with you Jim, smiling all the time would not suit you, it would look stupid. Not saying your smile looks stupid you have a very charming natural smile. But your serious face is part of your artistic look. Makes you come across as "sensitive artist with depth suddenly releasing a butterfly in the sky when he smiles". (your smile reminds me of the fugacious moment when a butterfly leaves a flower to fly away) Shining like the sun all the time would destroy the effect. I think you're much more impressive when your face is grave, and your smile a hidden gift for those who touch you

[JimOfferman]

LOL, Rose! I'm not sure I like the word "grave" in there. I would have used "stern" or something similar yet not reminding you of a funeral face (I sincerely hope I don't look that serious!)... but, otherwise, thanks!

[Rose of Cairo]

Originally Posted by JimOfferman

LOL, Rose! I'm not sure I like the word "grave" in there. I would have used "stern" or something similar yet not reminding you of a funeral face (I sincerely hope I don't look that serious!)... but, otherwise, thanks!

LOL No Jim, don't worry, you don't look that serious. It's just my bad English. "grave" in French means serious but tending more towards "thoughtful". "stern" is a good match I guess.

[JimOfferman]

Pfew!

[TonyToneTone]

JB,

Man oh man, thank you. I went on your site and then came across the Million Dollar Experiment and am going to begin that today. Thank you for that!

You and I seem to have so much in common it's freaky. We're both into teaching, pickup (or whatever you would like to call it), the 4 Hour Workweek, and MMA.

Where in the world do you live?

[Jr Billionaire]

Originally Posted by TonyToneTone

JB,

Man oh man, thank you. I went on your site and then came across the Million Dollar Experiment and am going to begin that today. Thank you for that!

You and I seem to have so much in common it's freaky. We're both into teaching, pickup (or whatever you would like to call it), the 4 Hour Workweek, and MMA.

Where in the world do you live?

I am down in Vero Beach, FLA

MySpace.com - J. R. Billionaire - 19 - Male - VERO, Florida - www.myspace.com/71422571

thats my myspace hit me up

-JB

[evevera]

great post!
It's nice to get a reminder, I know I'm just heaps lazy about dressing to impress, right now I worry about getting all my assignments done!

[Halffull]

If I may be so presumptuous as to add something?

Make eye contact.

Improves first impressions by tenfold.

Great post.

[Jr Billionaire]

thanks everyone for the positive reviews

If I may be so presumptuous as to add something?

Make eye contact.

Improves first impressions by tenfold.

Great post.

thanks I agree, in fact I wrote a topic on just eye contactHow to Get Magical Eye contact - simply eyes


JB

[sixx1984]

Originally Posted by JimOfferman

Smile only when you feel like smiling, don't force it when you don't. A fake smile does not make for a good first impression - quite the opposite.

I'm not sure I agree with this. When making first impressions, and looking to create a good first impression, it's important to smile. If I meet someone for the first time and they look miserable, I don't think "wow, i was really impressed by that person and would like to see them again". No, it's more like "wow, that person was miserable, let's not see them again".

Obviously don't force a big smile because they look cheesy and fake. Even if I meet someone and they give just a small smile it leaves me thinking "well, maybe they are actually a fun/happy person but were just having a bad day, i'll give them another chance".

Obviously this is just my way of thinking - everyone is different! Plus, I always find that smiling, even when I don't feel like it, makes me feel better and more positive. But again, everyone is different!

Originally Posted by Jr Billionaire

I am down in Vero Beach, FLA

MySpace.com - J. R. Billionaire - 19 - Male - VERO, Florida - www.myspace.com/71422571

thats my myspace hit me up

-JB

I like your myspace page, btw.

[Jr Billionaire]

I'm not sure I agree with this. When making first impressions, and looking to create a good first impression, it's important to smile. If I meet someone for the first time and they look miserable, I don't think "wow, i was really impressed by that person and would like to see them again". No, it's more like "wow, that person was miserable, let's not see them again".

Obviously don't force a big smile because they look cheesy and fake. Even if I meet someone and they give just a small smile it leaves me thinking "well, maybe they are actually a fun/happy person but were just having a bad day, i'll give them another chance".

Obviously this is just my way of thinking - everyone is different! Plus, I always find that smiling, even when I don't feel like it, makes me feel better and more positive. But again, everyone is different!

thanks that says what I was trying to say

I like your myspace page, btw.

thanks man

-JB

[Rockchick26]

Originally Posted by JimOfferman

Great post overall, but I don't agree with this:



Smile only when you feel like smiling, don't force it when you don't. A fake smile does not make for a good first impression - quite the opposite.

I agree,if you smile too much,people will think you are desperate to get along with anybody. I have this problem so i can see the results of it. I smile almost all the time and you know what? Half the time people don't even smile back! Sometimes people don't even say "hi" back! So what happened there? Smiling is not a cure all,and it makes you look WAY too eager to please.

[Rockchick26]

Yeah the eye contact thing is important,and that's probably another reason i fail is because that's one of the hardest things for me to do. I even have problems looking my family and friends in the eye for longer than 2 or 3 seconds at a time. I guess i kinda feel like if i look at them too long it's creepy or sexual (with non family member of the opposite sex anyway). How do you get over your fear of eye contact? I really need to work on that somehow.

[Hot Alpha Female]

Jr Billionarie

Can I first say I LOVE your nickname. LOVE IT!

hahha

In regards to what you said to make an impression ...

I think you are spot on and I would also add its the energy that you give off when you enter a room and the way you carry yourself.

I reckon when you have that, no matter what you are wearing, what you look like, you can still command the attention of the people in room when you walk in..

Its a confidence thing =)

[Jr Billionaire]

I agree,if you smile too much,people will think you are desperate to get along with anybody. I have this problem so i can see the results of it. I smile almost all the time and you know what? Half the time people don't even smile back! Sometimes people don't even say "hi" back! So what happened there? Smiling is not a cure all,and it makes you look WAY too eager to please.

look at my comment below...

Yeah the eye contact thing is important,and that's probably another reason i fail is because that's one of the hardest things for me to do. I even have problems looking my family and friends in the eye for longer than 2 or 3 seconds at a time. I guess i kinda feel like if i look at them too long it's creepy or sexual (with non family member of the opposite sex anyway). How do you get over your fear of eye contact? I really need to work on that somehow.

so its your eye contact problem that turns people off from your smiling! in that case of course if you are looking at the ground will smiling saying hi people are not gonna say hi back... THEY CAN'T HEAR YOU! Man walk with pride, stick ya chest out and speak clearly and say " hey, whats sup, yo ect ect" with a nice sly smile most people will smile and say hey back.

its not rocket science most people are nice if you let them be.

I want you to also realize that nothing works 100% of the time, if someone doesn't say hi back its not the end of the world I can pretty much guarantee that the next person will. The goal isn't to get people to say hi back, its to give your warmth from your sun to as many people as possible. if they rather be cold then let them.

For trouble with eye contact I made a post here:

Social Skills training

the basic meat is you are already a top ten guy, you share alot of the same qualities that they have... whats the difference? They accept their fate as a 10 and you havn't... not yet make the choice to be a high status guy and eye contact will follow.

Jr Billionarie

Can I first say I LOVE your nickname. LOVE IT!

hahha

In regards to what you said to make an impression ...

I think you are spot on and I would also add its the energy that you give off when you enter a room and the way you carry yourself.

I reckon when you have that, no matter what you are wearing, what you look like, you can still command the attention of the people in room when you walk in..

Its a confidence thing =)

thanks much ma!

I don't think I have meet a Hot Alpha Female before... I think its time I did


thats exactly what I meant when I said be some ones sun. if you have that warm feeling, that warm approach, everybody will love you no matter what, you are spot on Hot Alpha Female!

thanks for the love hit me up on myspace

-JB