Help with a guy

[Liza Red]

Hi everyone.

Ok there is this guy I am really interested in. I was simply walking down the street and three guys walked past me. One of them decides to stare at me. Then I natuarlly looked back and felt this weird psychic force hit me. It made me stop walking altogether. I looked back at him. I couldn't help myself.

I think he got it as well because since that day, whenever I see this guy, he starts to stare at me for a long time or stares then looks away from me. He also sometimes flirts a little.

Now my main problem is he is very shy and won't come up to me. I know I have to make the move. Trouble is, I have a habit of "choking" due to lack of confidence.

Here's an example a month ago: Once he was all by himself at the park and started staring at me. I looked back, but my mind somehow blocked out so I had no idea what to say to him. Then the poor thing got depressed. After that I thought I was going to scare him away. So being the idiot I am, I walked away from the situation.

I want some advice on how to approach him, what to say to him (examples would be good), and what to do if he is with his mates.

I will be going to a function on Monday and he will be there so I want to have some answers by Sunday.
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[striving4peace]

Try not to do all the work. Give him a window of oppurtunity and let him try - with you assisting.
At the function when he moves to the food table / drinks table - move there and as you're both pouring yourself some grub / drink - ask him if he can pass you something. When he does, thank him, smile, and do the oldest trick in the book: "I think we've met before?"

That's about it - let him take it from there. He's gotta meet you on the bridge half way.
At which point he'll say "yeah, i think i've seen you at the park." the convo can go on:
you: "Yeah, I really like that park. It's on my way to XYZ"
and then talk about XYZ a little and let him ask you questions about it.

The image of you talking to him, will boost up his confidence and after that, take the train where you will

[TonyToneTone]

Hey Liza, try this as it will work in opening up a conversation. You see him, he stares at you (you can even walk up and initiate this as it still fits). "Hi I'm Liza, I see you everywhere (list the places; park, street, etc..)." Then shake hands with him. Ask him what he is doing at the event, what he does for a living, and so on. He should open up at this point.

Don't walk right up to him if he is with his mates. Give him a second to split from them or maybe when there is only 1 or 2 with him.

If he is really shy invite him somewhere fun. "I think my girlfriends and I are going to be going to (insert place), would you like to come?" or "Next time I go to the park, you should come with me".

Give him a window of oppurtunity and let him try

Just go for it. If he is the shy type he might not jump on it even if it is there just due to his insecurity. No need to waste a good thing. Go for it! JUST DO IT!!! and let us know how it goes of course