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Old 10-16-2008, 07:01 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Hi everyone.

Ok there is this guy I am really interested in. I was simply walking down the street and three guys walked past me. One of them decides to stare at me. Then I natuarlly looked back and felt this weird psychic force hit me. It made me stop walking altogether. I looked back at him. I couldn't help myself.

I think he got it as well because since that day, whenever I see this guy, he starts to stare at me for a long time or stares then looks away from me. He also sometimes flirts a little.

Now my main problem is he is very shy and won't come up to me. I know I have to make the move. Trouble is, I have a habit of "choking" due to lack of confidence.

Here's an example a month ago: Once he was all by himself at the park and started staring at me. I looked back, but my mind somehow blocked out so I had no idea what to say to him. Then the poor thing got depressed. After that I thought I was going to scare him away. So being the idiot I am, I walked away from the situation.

I want some advice on how to approach him, what to say to him (examples would be good), and what to do if he is with his mates.

I will be going to a function on Monday and he will be there so I want to have some answers by Sunday.
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Old 10-16-2008, 07:22 AM   #2 (permalink)
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Try not to do all the work. Give him a window of oppurtunity and let him try - with you assisting.
At the function when he moves to the food table / drinks table - move there and as you're both pouring yourself some grub / drink - ask him if he can pass you something. When he does, thank him, smile, and do the oldest trick in the book: "I think we've met before?"

That's about it - let him take it from there. He's gotta meet you on the bridge half way.
At which point he'll say "yeah, i think i've seen you at the park." the convo can go on:
you: "Yeah, I really like that park. It's on my way to XYZ"
and then talk about XYZ a little and let him ask you questions about it.

The image of you talking to him, will boost up his confidence and after that, take the train where you will
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Old 10-16-2008, 09:56 AM   #3 (permalink)
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Hey Liza, try this as it will work in opening up a conversation. You see him, he stares at you (you can even walk up and initiate this as it still fits). "Hi I'm Liza, I see you everywhere (list the places; park, street, etc..)." Then shake hands with him. Ask him what he is doing at the event, what he does for a living, and so on. He should open up at this point.

Don't walk right up to him if he is with his mates. Give him a second to split from them or maybe when there is only 1 or 2 with him.

If he is really shy invite him somewhere fun. "I think my girlfriends and I are going to be going to (insert place), would you like to come?" or "Next time I go to the park, you should come with me".

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Just go for it. If he is the shy type he might not jump on it even if it is there just due to his insecurity. No need to waste a good thing. Go for it! JUST DO IT!!! and let us know how it goes of course
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