Meeting new people, what are your feelings and conversations like?

[Boreas]

When meeting new people, what is your attitude and reaction?

For me it used to be a kind of unease and boredom. I felt anxiety over the person I was meeting, fretted over what we would talk about, felt like I had to propel the conversation, and only picked safe/boring topics.

Now I take it more like hanging out. If I don't have anything much to say I stay silent, and if someone says something like "Bad weather today" I might react with "What has been the best weather of your life?" or something, that is unusual, but at least interesting. I think most people vibe off the novelty and interest in such a question and take it as me being genuinely interested.

What are some of your favorite "meeting people" questions and reactions?

[Akashic_Librarian]

What are you interested in?

What music do you like?

Do you like Philosophy?

Do you know who Steve Pavlina is? (seriously...)

Do you read much?

[forynav]

hey. about that weather thing.

It helps if you meet a person where they are and then lead them to where you are.

What I mean is, instead of reacting with a big question like, "what's been the best weather of your life?", you can say: "You're right. I really liked the weather two days back. But, then that is why it's called weather, haha."

Now, you have connected with them and also invested yourself in the conversation. Now, it's up to them. If they come back with an anecdote, then you can ask that question u asked. If they dont, then you have been polite and no issues. Of course, if it is someone you are interested in talking with, persist and change the topic if needed and smile with your eyes.

[Boreas]

Good advice, I like that. Thanks.