Girls Asking Guys Out

[Michael Chui]

So, while browsing prodpr0n, I came upon someone named Hot Alpha Female. By my qualification as a human male, I can confirm at least two of those claims, and I figure anyone who claims to be an Alpha probably is one.

She describes herself as "Just a girl, who has had some dating experience, read a whole lot of books and has extraordinary passion about the dating game, who will give advice to anyone and everyone who is willing to listen".

Seeing how often women come to this forum to ask about whether or not it's okay to ask guys out, how to do it, their fears, etc., I figured that her blog would be a perfect place to point them to.

Check it out: Hot Alpha Female

Or start with this one: Hot Alpha Female: Introducing ... Find A Man MONDAYS!!!

Disclaimer: I haven't given her blog an extensive read-through, so I have no idea about the quality of her posts and advice. I'm not endorsing this, but I thought it'd be a good pointer.

[Michael Chui]

After reading several of her posts, I feel I should clarify something:

She is a PUA, and also the first female PUA I've heard of. This is worth pointing out. I noticed an entire post dedicated to one of DeAngelo's books.

Her advice seems to generally be good and agrees with a lot of what I know. She seems to have an uncommonly level head about relationships, and has displayed enough introspection to impress me. I've burned a bit too much time going through it, though, so I can't really say more.

Enjoy.

[forynav]

Michael and Hot Alpha Female sitting in a tree......

[IsaachElric]

women generally don't know **** about the dating game.

anyway, this girl seems like she might just know what she's talking about. respect

[ns123]

wow. Isaach, spread the hate.

I'm glad you let me know that I don't know **** about the dating game.

[funchy]

It reads like a dating column in Cosmo magazine. Not that it's necessarily bad advice, but it's not a secret either.

Question for you all: what does it mean when a woman is an "alpha"? Is it a power thing? Or a confidence thing? or ??

Originally Posted by IsaachElric

women generally don't know **** about the dating game.

Honest question: what makes you say this?

[Michael Chui]

Originally Posted by funchy

It reads like a dating column in Cosmo magazine. Not that it's necessarily bad advice, but it's not a secret either.

It IS a dating column. I don't read Cosmo, so I can't compare to it, but I wouldn't be surprised if there were gems among the articles. The problem is, in effect, that the Sadie Hawkins thing simply doesn't get approved of often enough: anyone who pushes girls to pick up guys gets preferential treatment from me.

None of it is a secret. The problem is that most people never pay attention long enough to figure it out. They just shipwreck dozens of relationships without any clear idea of why and little inclination to actually introspect and analyze.

Those of us who take a step back and look gain the ability to offer universally relevant advice.

Originally Posted by funchy

Question for you all: what does it mean when a woman is an "alpha"? Is it a power thing? Or a confidence thing? or ??

Social hierarchy. An alpha is someone who dominates a group, is (almost) completely self-driven, and are more likely to assert than to submit. The common litmus test is, "When you and your friends go out on Friday night, who decides what to do?" The alpha does. You know your group is full of betas if you can never figure out what to do. If it's round robin, then you probably have a group of alpha females.

Gender doesn't come into play, except as a variation. Women tend to have learned how to work with being an alpha better.

[Bonkers]

I've been reading her blog for a while now.

Amazed to find a woman that actually knows what she's talking about. 99% of women out there don't seem to have a clue what they are attracted to.

[Dan.Linehan]

Originally Posted by forynav

Michael and Hot Alpha Female sitting in a tree......

I LOL'd.

[Michael Chui]

Originally Posted by Dan.Linehan

I LOL'd.

Honestly, I couldn't come up with a witty riposte, and a serious response seemed just plain inappropriate.

Besides, she's hot. And I'm a sucker for the Aussie accent, even if I know I'd tire of it inside a week.

[Hot Alpha Female]

Hey guys

Ok so you wanna know something funny.

I'm searching around on the internet looking to get my answer on how to tithe answered and I then I first found Steve Pavlina's blog and then this forum.

So i signed up ... and that was the end of that.

Then I'm like checking my blog sites and checking out who is checking out my website and I notice a link from this forum and a thread about me!!

So firstly can I just say that I really flattered that you guys even mentioned me!! Thats very very kool. Thank You.

There are heaps of thing I wanna say ... but first one is ...

IM NOT A PUA ... Thats cute that you think I am though. =)

I dont even know what a female PUA would do. Would that be some chick who just randomly walks around picking up guys? lol

I just understand the dating game a "little" more than the average person and aim to share my experiences to those that want to listen to them.

I don't preach anything on my blog, say what you should or should not do, but just write about my own opinions on issues to do with dating and playing the game.

N michael, just as a side note, that is the best definition I have heard of an alpha female like ever.

Seriously I couldnt have made up a better one myself =)

Thanks for being so supportive everyone =)

[Parthon]

I love your video blogs HAF(can I call you haf? ), they are really full of love, truth and power, you can hear it.

Michael: Thanks for sharing the link.

[Hot Alpha Female]

Hi Parthon,

Well I'm glad that you enjoy the videos. And yes you can call me HAF everyone does that =)

[Michael Chui]

Hey, welcome. Serendipity rocks. Enjoy the forums; it's a good place.

Originally Posted by Hot Alpha Female

IM NOT A PUA ... Thats cute that you think I am though. =)

I dont even know what a female PUA would do. Would that be some chick who just randomly walks around picking up guys? lol

No, not at all. A female PUA is as much a girl who arranges circumstance to get picked up as much as she goes and picks up guys (or other girls).

A PUA is simply a person who focuses on the line between alone and together--the pick up. They study that act, formalizing and generalizing the techniques for making it happen, and spend time actually working to improve their effectiveness.

Doesn't mean you're in it for the sex--that's a bonus or a motivator, whichever you prefer--just means you've made an Art of the Pick-Up. Not all that different from painting, really.

But this threatens to veer off into lands rehashed endlessly a while back on this forum, and I don't want to get back into that. I'm not exactly an insider of the seduction community, after all.

[Hot Alpha Female]

Originally Posted by Michael Chui

A PUA is simply a person who focuses on the line between alone and together--the pick up. They study that act, formalizing and generalizing the techniques for making it happen, and spend time actually working to improve their effectiveness.

You know when I first read that comment. I was like, that has NOTHING to do with what I talk about or what I am about.

But there is an element of truth in there.

I don't know about putting myself in situations were I'm going to get picked up. That could be anywhere I go. Its not about attracting and dating 10 guys at once either.

I guess what I teach my women at the end of the day is how to build their own self confidence so that they can make the dating game much more enjoyable. As part in parcel of that it is about developing a magnetic personality which not only men are attracted to, but everyone is.

Its not about learning what to say and what not to say. How to pretend to act and behave and how not to. Its so much more than that =)

[Michael Chui]

Originally Posted by Hot Alpha Female

I guess what I teach my women at the end of the day is how to build their own self confidence so that they can make the dating game much more enjoyable. As part in parcel of that it is about developing a magnetic personality which not only men are attracted to, but everyone is.

Its not about learning what to say and what not to say. How to pretend to act and behave and how not to. Its so much more than that =)

I agree with you 100% and feel bad that I didn't express it as well as I could have.

That is what PUA is about. It's not just a series of canned pick-up lines: it's knowing why some techniques work and others don't. There's a thing called the newbie exercise: go into a public place, walk up to a hundred different girls, and say hi. Strike up a conversation about whatever. It's a confidence-building thing, nothing more, designed to show you that hey, girls are normal human beings too.

The most important thing for you is to talk to women everywhere, about anything until they no longer intimidate you. When talking to women no longer intimidates you, something special will happen. You will find yourself having non-threatening conversations with beautiful women all the time.

This is as important for women as for men, of course, but everyone in the seduction community is male and hetero, so no one picks up on that little detail.

I mean, confidence is just knowing you're awesome, letting it come out, and not feeling threatened if someone else is awesome too. At that point, a relationship flowers based on compatibility, not on this insecurity or that unfulfilled need.

[evevera]

Wow, I'm glad I found this blog, just have I've been looking for!
Hehe, awesome to find another aussie doing these blogs, very cool!