Neighbours

[xhironakamurax]

So for the past 16 years (I'm 16.) we've loved our neighbours. New ones just moved in mabey 2 months ago.
The day that they moved in we were very exited to meet them, my granny and I just came back from the coffee place (canadians will know.) and we just drove into our driveway. We got our driveway fixed and part of the neighbours a long time ago, and we've been sharing it with them. So we drove in, and the new neighbour guy walked up to us, he pointed to the basketball net, and we got out of the car and he said "The line." and we're like "what?", he said "it's on the line." my granny asked, "the basketball net?", he said "yes it's on the line." so he walked away quite quickly. So my grampa and I moved the net 1 inch off the "line". So my granny hasn't been so happy about this because he did yell at us.

So we all figured he had just had a bad day, so we've tried to smile, wave, say hello to them. Today my dad got up for work, got into the car andthe neighbour came out of his house and said my dad must move his car off of the line, my dad was in his car obviously leaving anyway... So he got out of the car and said, " why are you so upset about this?", the neighbour said " because it's my buisness.", my dad asked, "why are you being such an *******?", then the neighbour said " no, you're being an A h***
So far this is the situation...I believe my dad was right saying that to him, because of all the stress he's caused us...

[ns123]

Yes, being nasty back to those who upset us is totally justifiable. I mean, that will make things better when we give them a dose of their own medicine! When we make them feel bad for making us feel bad, they'll stop! Right? Or will that make them want to make US feel bad so that we will stop? Um, who stops first if we both use this tactic?

When someone gives you a gift, and you refuse to accept it, to whom does the gift belong? When someone wants to give us anger, and we refuse to accept it, to whom does the anger belong? (I read that somewhere, resonated well with me)

Next time, when he says, you're on the line when you're backing out, just say, "Oh, Thanks! I'm backing out anyway." and drive off with a smile. If he says "move your basketball net" say, "Oh! Thanks for the reminder!" and move it. Decline his offer of negativity.

Easier said than done, I know. I still struggle with this. But it will get easier with practice.

[Call me Boges]

We recently had some neighbors move into our quiet neighborhood with about 4 kids a dog and an ******* of a husband as well. Neither of the parents work they sit around in the front yard smoking cigs all day.

Anyway my mom takes no crap so when their dog crapped in our yard (lol pun intended) she marched over their and set them straight.

Now we are building a fence.

My point is theres no point in arguing or fighting with neighbors. You have to learn to live next to them. Its all about respect as well. This guy came at you guys in a assholish manner. However he IS in the right. The property line should be clearly defined and not crossed unless both neighbors have a mutual understanding.

Dont cross into their property and they wont have anything to say. Done deal.

[xhironakamurax]

Originally Posted by Call me Boges

We recently had some neighbors move into our quiet neighborhood with about 4 kids a dog and an ******* of a husband as well. Neither of the parents work they sit around in the front yard smoking cigs all day.

Anyway my mom takes no crap so when their dog crapped in our yard (lol pun intended) she marched over their and set them straight.

Now we are building a fence.

My point is theres no point in arguing or fighting with neighbors. You have to learn to live next to them. Its all about respect as well. This guy came at you guys in a assholish manner. However he IS in the right. The property line should be clearly defined and not crossed unless both neighbors have a mutual understanding.

Dont cross into their property and they wont have anything to say. Done deal.

Some of what you said is right, but I know he wasn't in the right. WE were an inch over the line, exactly. I believe he cannot be in the right if he did not do the right thing...If that makes sense, I can tell you more about our neighbours, but it's not the best idea for me to say it......

NS123, I believe you are right. I will try and go with your advice. No offence to call em boges.