So lonely

[SenoritaBonita]

I'm so tired to be lonely. I do so many things, yet I usually feel lonely. I take night school, of course with other people, take 3 fitness classes and I have no friends. I have no one to travel with, to go out for a coffee, to watch a movie, to go out camping. How do I change that? How to become more approachable? I feel lonely and have no one to call. My sister is very different from me - we do get along but don't have similar interests. How do I meet more people who could potentially become my friends?

[Paradox13]

be your own friend first and the rest will follow

[supertom]

Dont become more approachable, instead just go up to people and talk to them, if they reject you, "who cares" theres 6 billion more people. If you really enjoy

[SenoritaBonita]

Originally Posted by Paradox13

be your own friend first and the rest will follow

I'm my own friend which is why I do lots of things and having no friends doesn't stop me, but it's fun to do things with other people too.

[Call me Boges]

Do you consider yourself very attractive? Are you?

Good looks can be intimidating for alot of guys and breed jealousy from females.
Are you sociable at all? Or when you are in class you just close up and focus only on the coursework. Do you make small talk with people sitting near you?

How about in your fitness classes? Do you talk to anyone there? I suggest brushing up on your communication skills and making the first step. Sometimes you just gotta go out on a limb and put yourself out there.

[SenoritaBonita]

Originally Posted by Call me Boges

Do you consider yourself very attractive? Are you?

Good looks can be intimidating for alot of guys and breed jealousy from females.
Are you sociable at all? Or when you are in class you just close up and focus only on the coursework. Do you make small talk with people sitting near you?

How about in your fitness classes? Do you talk to anyone there? I suggest brushing up on your communication skills and making the first step. Sometimes you just gotta go out on a limb and put yourself out there.

Hi,

I think I'm cute - not drop dead gorgeous, but I'm cute. I think of myself as sociable and I do make contact when others seem to be on the same wave length as me - both in my fitness and night school classes. I have always been very sociable and don't know what happened now.

You are right, I gotta put myself out there.

Thanks for listening. I read your name wrong the first time - thought it said called me BoRges. I love Borges.

[Call me Boges]

Originally Posted by SenoritaBonita

Hi,

I think I'm cute - not drop dead gorgeous, but I'm cute. I think of myself as sociable and I do make contact when others seem to be on the same wave length as me - both in my fitness and night school classes. I have always been very sociable and don't know what happened now.

You are right, I gotta put myself out there.

Thanks for listening. I read your name wrong the first time - thought it said called me BoRges. I love Borges.

Yeah my name is a play on bogie aka Humphrey Bogart.

I know where you are coming from though, I just recently moved back to my hometown and most of my friends are gone or ive simply lost touch with them. Ive accepted not having the bustling social life I used to have. I do my own thing and if I come across someone who I might build a friendship with then thats cool.

I dont put myself out there that much either, I probably should do so more.

[TonyToneTone]

Originally Posted by SenoritaBonita

I'm so tired to be lonely. I do so many things, yet I usually feel lonely. I take night school, of course with other people, take 3 fitness classes and I have no friends. I have no one to travel with, to go out for a coffee, to watch a movie, to go out camping. How do I change that? How to become more approachable? I feel lonely and have no one to call. My sister is very different from me - we do get along but don't have similar interests. How do I meet more people who could potentially become my friends?

Are you a part of any groups? That's an easy way to meet people

When you're at school and fitness classes, they might not be the best place to make outside friends. School maybe but most people at the gym go there, workout, and go home.

Do you have a Myspace? MySpace type in your zip and add some people from your area.

Do you go out at all? Clubs, movies, bookstore, anything?

You would be surprised at how many people would want to hang out with you if they could.

[mattpd]

Just use a simple line like:

"Hi I'm Matt, would you like to be friends?"

Then exchange numbers, or facebook.

[Lauxa]

You mentioned camping. I bet you could find a group in your area that is into camping trips. After going on a camping trip or two, you might click with someone there and then you would have a friend to call for coffee or a movie.

[teatree]

Try smiling at people. You'll find they smile back, which is a signal to start conversations. Start off at night school - smile, start a conversation, suggest that all of you head to the nearest pub afterwards for a drink, etc. You'll start getting to know people, some of whom you'll like and will become yoru friends. All friendships start with small friendly interactions.