Are All Men Prone to Cheating at Some Point?

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Originally Posted by cylon

I'm curious if the OP ever even considered for a moment if she had done anything whatsoever that may have made her guy feel the urge to stray, or if it is indeed is still all his fault.

Looking at your own responsibilty in a situation is always a good idea, but placing blame usually doesn't do anyone any good. Regardless of what 172 did, her partner is still responsible for his actions (even if they were motivated by hers).

[172]

Originally Posted by cylon

I'm curious if the OP ever even considered for a moment if she had done anything whatsoever that may have made her guy feel the urge to stray, or if it is indeed is still all his fault.

No, I haven't done anything to make him feel the urge to stray. I'm confident about that. Which is why the notion was so shocking. I'm not sitting around like a dull, lame drag. I'm vibrant and our relationship has been vibrant and exciting. Full of laughter and passion. We are still in an exploration stage. He still gets nervous around me occassionally and we've known each other for years. (butterfly nerves)

[povman]

I'm a guy. I've been in (my first) relationship for almost 4 years now, have never cheated, and can't imagine being with anyone but my fiancée.

I think that if your partner is starting to stray, even though you're doing all you can to build the relationship, there's a chance you're just doing the wrong thing. It might mean he has needs which are not being met by you, and if so you should really talk thorough and see what he deeply needs from a relationship. I thought everything was going great with my own relationship until everything suddenly started collapsing - turns out she didn't think I loved her because of the things I didn't do.

I'm a trusting person, and I don't believe your guy is cheating on you. If he says it wasn't him in face of the facts, after being trustworthy for so long, ESPECIALLY if he still gets butterflies around you, he's probably telling the truth.

Then again - I don't know what evidence you have.

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