love is possible, even after heartbreak

[ns123]

So, I'll take mattpd's advice and put out something positive in this thread:

For those out there who are heartbroken, in relationships that are ending, or just single and wondering whether it's possible to find someone right for you...

I've seen it happen very MANY times! It IS possible! It happens all the time, and when you see LOVE in action, you love to be around it!

One couple I know, they are both on their 2nd marriage. They discovered each other in their 40's. She had a child from her first, he had two from his first. They have none together. I'll call them P and L.

P and L love each other the way we all want to be loved. She supports him in who he is, he supports her in who she is. They are a partnership and balance each other out. He's a perfect gentleman, and she's like a mischievous little girl. You see it in the way they look at each other, they have a great love and understanding of one another. They accept each other unconditionally, and delight in experiencing life together. They are now both in their 50's and when I see them, I feel joyful, strong, and loving. Their love for each other spreads like a virus and you want to be in their presence.

Another friend of mine, his name is G. He went through an awful divorce with his wife, she cheated on him. He shares joint custody of his three kids with her. He works long hours to give his wife all these material things she demanded. His kids are wonderful, mannerly, and unique kids. I love having them over. His ugly divorce lasted two years, his wife got tatoos, slept around, and now the "mister" is living in his house, married to his wife, driving the car he purchased. She gives him "hell" all the time, and I often felt sad when I would talk to him.

He recently (about a year ago) met the most awesome, beautiful woman. She is beautiful (inside and out, in fact, she's HOT), accomplished, and she loves his kids. They are both in their late 40's. She has met his kids (aged 5, 7, and 11) and they adore her. They both support each other, make time for each other, and are a joy to be around.

After his divorce, G thought he'd never date again. He dated a lot of crazy women that had all these crazy demands. Really, when I talked with G before, it was always depressing, complain, complain, life is awful. Heck, I was losing hope for him. Then, he met his current gal, and she's wonderful. They've been together for a year and it looks like they will be together for a long time.

Is their life perfect? No. But is it awesome, a great experience, with the ups and downs? Yes! And how do I know? I see it in the way they look at each other.

So have faith! Trust in the universe! Joy, love, all that you want, is just around the corner! You just have to stay on the path long enough for it to reveal itself! In both these examples, these people were about to give up, but just as they were going to throw in the towel, bam! Life happened and taught them that wonderful amazing things await them.

[catalyst]

Thanks for posting that...

After my break-up, I often feel that that I'll never find someone who I will be really compatible with again. I know it is negative thinking, so hearing about others who have found a real relationship after a painful break-up gives me hope.

I sometimes feel like I want to go searching for someone, but I know my priority is to get myself back to a good place, both mentally, physically, and emotionally.

[Angela]

Oh, boy, I know that feeling. After my 3-year recovering-heroin-addict-rock-star-boyfriend debacle, I was convinced I would never find the right guy, and I was smashed to smithereens -- just decimated. Flattened.

And now I'm grateful for that heartbreak, because that relationship contained the seeds of who I needed to be so that I may have my wonderful loving, long-term, mutually beneficial relationship with Danger Man, the best friend I ever had.