Online dating? Should I give him my number?

[Zoomorphic]

hi, here it goes:

I m a member of myspace. A guy chatted me up and from his profile, he is extremely attractive. I absolutely adore his looks. He's got the style and looks I like in a guy. I know i seem a bit shallow but i cant help being attracted to someone good looking. I know personality is more important but you got to be physically attracted to someone to begin with.

He asked to meet up with me but I m feeling very uncomfortable because I ve never met someone over the internet in real life. Already, I m thinking he could be a -------- Anything!
He could be a prince charming or maybe a psychopath!

I dont know what to do!? do i give him my number? i have his number. What happen if i met him and he's a bad guy? what happen if it wasnt him in the pictures and that his pictures are fake? I m so curious to find out and I m also afraid. I dont know what to do. I m single and i do want a relationship.
I heard of people that succeeded in finding love online. But, often i doubt if thats a good approach. I worry if i do date someone online and when my family or friends asked me where we met. I said from MYSPACE!? I dont want people to think i m desparate and cheap ya know. Argh!



So to all of ya who have had experiences in dating someone online. Please, share your story and advice. Can i really find true love online?

[freddy]

I think just agreeing to meet in a very public place,for coffee or something would be your safest bet. That will give you the chance to see if he the picture you have been looking at. I have dated girls that after I see them, they look nothing like the picture they posted. Doing the meeting this way, if you don't like, your only wasted a hour. If you like him give him your number.

[Brutha]

MySpace can also allow you to ask on of his friend about him beforehand. Maybe you even have friends that know one of his friends.

[JimOfferman]

Originally Posted by Zoomorphic

Can i really find true love online?

No promises that you will, but it worked out pretty well for my sister and a bunch of other people I know.

And you're not desparate or cheap if you go looking for love on the internet - nowadays, it's hip to do so!

[seeker5]

Originally Posted by Zoomorphic

I dont know what to do!? do i give him my number? i have his number.

No need to give him your number if you have his. You can just call him up. He should respect your concerns if you don't want to give him your number. If he is the least bit pushy, then forget about him.

What happen if i met him and he's a bad guy?

Same thing that happens if you meet a bad guy in real life. You set your first date to be in a very public place - say a coffee shop and only plan that for a short amount of time. Meet him for say 30-45 minutes and don't do anything in private with him on the first date. Then when you meet the guy you can decide for yourself and analyze how you feel about him after you've met him. Since you're brand new to doing this, that seems to be the safest route for you - and allows you to feel comfortable.

what happen if it wasnt him in the pictures and that his pictures are fake?

Never speak to him again.

So to all of ya who have had experiences in dating someone online. Please, share your story and advice. Can i really find true love online?

I think the real question is - can you find true love in the first place? Whether it's online or offline is immaterial, you're dealing with the same element.

[MyEyeIsOpen]

My wife and I met online 6 years ago, so it can work. My advice is to meet with him in a group -- go out to some place with a group of your friends, and invite him along, just to make sure he's kosher.

[C33]

Hi there,

Your experience makes me want to update my MYspace profile!!!

If you haven't talked to the guy yet, I would say: do so before you decide to go out with him.

There are a few numbers you can get online to stay anonymous. You can forward them to any number of your choosing and get voicemail you can check online. Pretty cool! You only pay for the forwarding, but not for checking your messages online. I use Yac.com in the U.K, there are other services available in the U.S.

Good luck and enjoy the hot guy!

[Spartan]

Hmm, my alarm bells would be ringing if I were you. Firstly how old are you? And how old does he claim to be?

I would be very cautious of a random guy that contacted you over myspace, especially if you are only young.

[Zoomorphic]

I m 22 yrs old. He claimed to be 26yrs. I get alot of guys added me and chatted me up in myspace.

[Zoomorphic]

Originally Posted by C33

Hi there,

Your experience makes me want to update my MYspace profile!!!

If you haven't talked to the guy yet, I would say: do so before you decide to go out with him.

There are a few numbers you can get online to stay anonymous. You can forward them to any number of your choosing and get voicemail you can check online. Pretty cool! You only pay for the forwarding, but not for checking your messages online. I use Yac.com in the U.K, there are other services available in the U.S.

Good luck and enjoy the hot guy!

We havent talk yet. I ve decided to invest on a new SIM card and get a phone number just for him so if anything goes wrong. I ll stop using that number. Right now, i m still thinking if i should go ahead and meet him.

[Holistic Star]

I would second taking it very slowly. Make sure you are comfortable with the correspondence first, (emails reveal a lot you know!) talk on the phone and check that you click and if you want to meet definitely arrange to meet in a public place.

Make sure you tell someone where you are going and arrange for them to either be nearby or call you at an agreed time to check you are ok.

I'm sure you will be fine, but better to have a back up plan incase you don't like him.