My soulmate found me...but she's married

[DoAnyOfYouExist]

Hello everyone peace and love. I need help we(my soulmate) and I don't know what to do. A new co-worker arrives for her first day immediately I could see with my third eye and feel with my intuition that this here was a deep woman, I also see the ring. We introduce ourselves in passing later on. She is very friendly and talks to everyone and she began to chat me up when I would be on smoke breaks or slow times, what have you. I feel something from this woman something different.

We go to lunch a few days after she started and she asks me if I smoke and I say yes we both have medical cards so no hassle my friends. Anywho I tell her. I haven't smoked in a month though because I get so high I can leave my body but it scares me and I try to prevent it. She knows what's u and tells me it's a gift etc etc. I'm starting to c this girl is deep like me and knows about all the things I do such as the end of the world, conspiracies, energy etc etc.

We start hanging out after work smoking and just having deep conversations for hours. I tell her at one point in deep conversation I tell her I am percieving us as becoming one physically I can feel her in my field of vision she takes my hand and asks me what I feel. I felt something then nothing and said nothing then she said she stopped giving energy then began again and said what do you feel now and a made the motion of a circle as she similtaneously did the same. We talked about this and much else.

To make a long story not any longer. We have the same energy we are on the same frequency, we recharge each other, we center each other, we know what each other are thinking, feeling, it's like true telepathy. She wanted to kiss me but I said we couldn't because she's married. She wanted to find out if what she was feeling was real that I'm her soulmate, I told her I'm feeling all that to but we are both holding back and have walls because she's married. We talk some more and now we are at a delema. We know we are soulmate, she knew this married wasn't going to work before she met me(he's in the military) . Here's the prob she wants to divorce him so we can be truely together, right now we haven't done anything physical but we love and connect so it's cheating anyways I think but she has to wait a certain amount of time or lose ability to be in this country in last 2009 she has perm res if she divorces now she has to go home I can't follow because I can't leave the country right now court stuff. What should we do. We want to me together but not sin, we both have a sorta mishmash of religions which make up our beliefs. We can't figure out how to be with each other. Please help us we are overwhelmed.

[DoAnyOfYouExist]

sorry it's so sloppy I am using an iPhone.

[Savage]

Step 1 is to get aligned with truth. This means having her tell her husband what you just wrote here. Or you could tell him, but it's better if it comes from her.

No need to threaten any action or divorce. Just bring her husband up to speed on what has already happened. Then you'll probably need to give him some space to digest it for a few days. This means being honest about how the two of you feel and not lying to him about any of it or trying to hide any of the truth from him.

If the two of you can't bring yourselves to do that, then you're turning your backs on truth (and on courage as well), and that's only going to blow up in your face later.

If you can get aligned with truth now though, you'll free up a lot of trapped energy that will make things easier for everyone.

Real soulmates don't turn their backs on truth; they embrace it and align themselves with it. Otherwise the relationship itself becomes mired in falsehood.

[Spartan]

Originally Posted by Steve Pavlina

Real soulmates don't turn their backs on truth; they embrace it and align themselves with it. Otherwise the relationship itself becomes mired in falsehood.

You believe in soulmates? The kind that are supernaturally predestined to be together?

[Savage]

Originally Posted by Spartan

You believe in soulmates? The kind that are supernaturally predestined to be together?

Belief in soulmates is a perspective. Like all perspectives it has empowering and disempowering aspects. Sometimes I find that perspective useful; sometimes I don't.

Asking if I believe in soulmates pre-supposes that I equate my identity with a belief or disbelief, which I don't. Since your question is rooted in a false premise, it therefore has no truthful answer either way.

Generally when I'm communicating with someone who does believe in soulmates, I find it useful to assume that belief. But if you and I were having a private conversation about relationships, I'd join you in the perspective that there's no such thing as soulmates so we could communicate more easily and go into greater depth on the subject.

[JaredR]

I wrote this post about four times. I want to give you advice, but you're basically saying you want to run off with a soldier's wife, and that is difficult for me to read without passing judgment. I won't sugarcoat this: I think sin was already a factor when you decided to pursue the relationship.

I don't want to moralize (too much) or tell you how to live your life, so I'll just leave you with my advice. Consider the moral implications (and the husband) before you go too far. Be aware that the person you've fallen in love with was not totally committed to her vows.

[garentee]

Originally Posted by JaredR

I wrote this post about four times. I want to give you advice, but you're basically saying you want to run off with a soldier's wife, and that is difficult for me to read without passing judgment. I won't sugarcoat this: I think sin was already a factor when you decided to pursue the relationship.

I don't want to moralize (too much) or tell you how to live your life, so I'll just leave you with my advice. Consider the moral implications (and the husband) before you go too far. Be aware that the person you've fallen in love with was not totally committed to her vows.

Its not the vows that she was not committed to, it is the person.

[Jamie]

Yeah, and people should consider the moral implications of getting married. I say marriage is immoral, while being in the moment, and true to yourself, and how you feel about people, is not immoral.

It's saying that what you feel now (love), in this very moment, you promise to continue to feel that, for as long as you both shall live. How can you promise such a thing, when it is not in your power. You can't know how you will feel in the future.

Marriage, is like saying, ok, what I feel isn't so important, I'm not going to allow my feelings to change, or honour them if they do; I'm going to rigidly stick with this one person, come what may.

Conversly, what you feel in the moment with a person (no matter if they have a ring or not), is real and genuine.

Marriage is also immoral, because, well, what the **** does the state or the church have to do with the feelings between 2 people?

Sorry for swearing a bit. I also agree with what Steve said about being in alignment with truth; and that it's probably a good idea to be honest and straight (and patient) with people in situations like this one.

[ming]

'Soulmate' is just an overly romantic word to say that you happen to have an awful lot in common with someone. When I hear someone saying they found or they looking for their soulmates I translate that what really really they are looking after is someone to save them from themselves and\or they long for transcend but they need someone to help them in the ride.
Let's get real.
You met a married women that 'speaks your own language' and you prefer to call her 'soulmate' to excuse or minimize what you consider an inmoral relationship- you do, I don't-

I am afraid that you have to choose between self-indulgence and self-punishment.
1-Indulge yourself in the affair and see where this kindred spirit theory takes you.
2-Punish yourself by not having the affair and spend your life in remorse of what it might have been.

In either decision someone is going to be hurt if not the three of you.

[mncz]

I would not be so cathegoric and punishing here.
What I think is that people get married for all sorts of reasons, including some that do not have to do anything with love at all. I also know that with time feelings can change, people who have been close, can grow apart and choose to walk different ways.

Is it wise then to hold on to old promises just for the sake of them? I find it to be a limiting concept and I always prefer freedom, so I would not. What is important in this situation is, as Steve said, to align with truth. Everyone who is part of this situation has to be completely honest towards everyone else about where they are and where they see their path now, and forgive themselves and the other persons for any harm unwillingly done. Then a peaceful solution is possible.

Love in every relationship starts with the woman. She is the one to keep the relationship or pull it apart, because it is so that within her heart lies the primary source of the love that sustains relationships. So her honesty regarding this situation is imperative. See for yourself if she is able to maintain it.

I find only one action immoral in this world and that is: denying true love when it happens to you. It is the most amazing thing in the universe and should be cherished as such.

Regarding all the practical issues of permits and such: if you are determined to be together, you will find a way to solve them. Perhaps you will have to be apart for some time, but that will benefit you in a different way. Sometimes being apart from the beloved teaches one a lot more about the relationship than being together.

[Rose of Cairo]

Originally Posted by mncz

Love in every relationship starts with the woman. She is the one to keep the relationship or pull it apart, because it is so that within her heart lies the primary source of the love that sustains relationships.

Why do you think this?