Fair to overwhelmly pressure someone?

[coLLege kid07]

In my family we have always been somewhat spiritual. My dad is somewhat spiritual, my brother is somewhat spiritual, my sister is somewhat spiritual, and I'm pretty spiritual. Only thing is...my mom's definitely not. Her values are that of what I like to call the "red" pill and are basically aligned with societies. My dad's and everyone elses aren't exactly the same. (I don't believe my dad is aware of this for some reason..maybe hes scared?..maybe his awareness isn't that built up..I'm not sure) My siblings and I believe in peace and going after your dreams. My question is would it be fair to overwhelmly pressure my mom to change? I know if I had a conversation with my brother and told him some of the things I know...that he would probably approve of this. What do you think? Would this be fair to do? It is, after all the greatest good of all...=/ Opinions, thoughts, experiences?

[alexb5784]

I think it's ok to talk to your mom about your spiritual beliefs, but you shouldn't try to make her change.

The real question is whether she is happy and comfortable with her current beliefs. If she is unhappy, then you and your other family members can be living examples of what a positive belief system can create in a person's life. If she's miserable or annoyed all the time, then just by looking at your life, she can see what being in a state of peace and abundance looks like.

I don't think we can make people change, but we can definitely influence them to change on their own.

[votoshka]

I think if your mother had been inclined to change her beliefs/values, she would have done so in the past.

I feel that pressuring her to change is definitely NOT a good idea. As a parent, I can imagine I wouldn't respond well myself to my son/daughter trying to change my belief system simply because they believe that their way is the right way and mine is wrong.

In fact, I pretty much resent ANYONE trying to change my value/belief system. I feel that what I believe is right for ME and my loved ones need to respect my decisions, regardless of whether or not they feel the same way. And at the same time, I also feel that it is not my place to try and change THEIR beliefs either!

As alexb5784 suggested, all you can do is live by your beliefs and lead by example. Whether your mother follows or not is entirely up to her!

[Remiel]

I don't quite recall the quote so here's a paraphrase. "A man who's opinion has been forcefully changed hasn't really changed their opinion."

[Alexjstrandberg]

Pressuring anyone to change isn't true spirituality, it's forcing people and manipulation. True spirituality=acceptance.

With that said you can accept their choices of being unreasonable and angry people but you don't need to take it. Accept their choices and make your own choice to not be around it.

[The Cloud]

Forcing your beliefs down other people's throats only works with the kind of people that join cults. You can talk to your mother about it, but the best thing you could do is to live what you believe. She will take objective evidence far more seriously than force, so if you can show her how happy your beliefs make you versus all the stress she goes through due to her own beliefs, she will be more receptive to what you have to say.

[DayInTheLife]

My question is would it be fair to overwhelmly pressure my mom to change?

NO!

Don't try to change people, it's rude.

[Lanya]

We're overwhelmingly pressuring you not to overwhelmingly pressure your mom! Hurray for irony!

But seriously, maybe you can look into what it means to be happy with the way your mom is.

Or of course, if you want you can try the pressure anyway, just to see what happens.