What do women find physically attractive in a man?

[Lauxa]

I am attracted to "solid" men -- tall (at least 6'), somewhat stocky, muscular. A guy who looks like he could protect me. A guy who isn't all bony when I want to hug on him. Too skinny would be a bigger turn-off than overweight. Also he has to have good posture, a way of standing that is not arrogant but not harried.

I am deeply suspicious of beautiful men, anything too muscular or too chisled tends to also be too arrogant. They can be nice to look at though.

I am about 5'7", 130 lb, B cup.

[Rose of Cairo]

Oh, right, I forgot to describe myself. 1m58/5'2'', F cup, hourglass bodyshape, 70kg/154lbs - but I already had the exact same ideal type of guy when I was thin My hair's ash blond but currently my head is shaved.

[Spartan]

Wow, Rose I know someone who exactly fits your description lol.

Here's a theory, are women attracted to men that resemble their dads?

[seo1]

also are men attracted to someone that resembles their mother?

[Spartan]

Originally Posted by seo1

also are men attracted to someone that resembles their mother?

Hmm, I dunno.

I suppose my question was stupid lol, and far too vague!

[lasti]

Originally Posted by Spartan

Wow, Rose I know someone who exactly fits your description lol.

Here's a theory, are women attracted to men that resemble their dads?

Hm, I am incestuous? ....Noooo, I don't think so...

[Spartan]

Originally Posted by lasti

Hm, I am incestuous? ....Noooo, I don't think so...

I didn't mean exactly lol.

Just traits that you may be subconsciously attracted to, such as height, body type, hair colour, hair quantity, muscle mass etc.

[uberinquisitive]

Originally Posted by Spartan

Just traits that you may be subconsciously attracted to, such as height, body type, hair colour, hair quantity, muscle mass etc.

Physically, no way.

However, I do like much older men (my late fiance was 23 years older than me). And I tend to be most attracted to men who are unattainable (long distance, always traveling, married, etc.). This, I can definitely see, is part of my "daddy complex."

[Spartan]

Originally Posted by uberinquisitive

Physically, no way.

However, I do like much older men (my late fiance was 23 years older than me). And I tend to be most attracted to men who are unattainable (long distance, always traveling, married, etc.). This, I can definitely see, is part of my "daddy complex."

That is rather strange lol. I wouldn't be seriously attracted to a married or unattainable person, since I would think what is the point, they are married or unattainable. But how is that part of your 'daddy complex'? Was your dad always travelling/working, did you not see much of him as a child?

yeah 23 years is quite a lot older lol. Old enough to be your dad in fact! My dad had me when he was about that age. If I was an older man, I don't know how I would feel about dating someone young enough to be my daughter... probably uncomfortable.

So physically you're attracted to wrinkles?

[ar81]

Lauxa
If you judge physical appearance you are losing the chance of knowing the real person behind that mask. Instead of caring about physical appearance, how about finding the human side of people?
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I have noticed that similar people attact similar people. So if you change, the kind of people around will change.

Also I have noticed that most of people look for people that ressemble their parents, and reproduce family behavioral patterns. So Electra an Edipus models seem to prevail.

[Spartan]

Originally Posted by ar81

Lauxa
If you judge physical appearance you are losing the chance of knowing the real person behind that mask. Instead of caring about physical appearance, how about finding the human side of people?

I believe Lauxa was merely answering the OP's question by stating what she finds physically attractive. I don't think she meant that that is all she cares about in a person.

[Elrond]

Originally Posted by ar81

Lauxa
If you judge physical appearance you are losing the chance of knowing the real person behind that mask. Instead of caring about physical appearance, how about finding the human side of people?

Are you really trying to fault her for answering the OP's question?

[openyourize]

i think the bottom line is that looks matter to women in a different way than they do to men. usually a man sees a woman and is attracted to her, and then hopes she has a great personality to go with it. if not, he may or may not just learn to deal with it. However, there is that occasion where a man falls for a girl based on personality first, as long as she is also attractive TO HIM.

with girls it is totally the opposite.

usually a woman meets a man with a great personality, and can become romantically interested if he is physically attractive TO HER as well. if not, she may or may not just deal with it. However, there is that occasion where a woman falls for a man based on physical attraction first, as long as he has a great personality.

this is not the ABSOLUTE definite thing for all people, but i think it is for most people.

also, men are naturally attracted to "shapely" women because they instinctively look for bodies built and ready for baby making.

women are naturally attracted to strong powerful men (physically emotionally and mentally) because they instictively look for a good provider.

but i honestly think that WAY WAY too many men use their average or not-so-great looks as an excuse for why they cant get women. when actually the turn-off is their weak will or clear discomfort with themselves. too many men think that if they were better built or had different facial features they could get more women. Maybe so, but if they worked on themselves from the inside first, they could get more QUALITY women.

[Rose of Cairo]

No man in my family looks like my ideal type of guy. Dunno where it comes from!

[Spartan]

Originally Posted by openyourize

usually a woman meets a man with a great personality, and can become romantically interested if he is physically attractive TO HER as well. if not, she may or may not just deal with it. However, there is that occasion where a woman falls for a man based on physical attraction first, as long as he has a great personality.

'Great personality' is so relative. Many men have wives or girlfriends, yet they don't all have a great personality in my opinion. In fact, I think personality is similar to looks in terms of ethical judgement, as it is genetically influenced. But certain behaviours can be changed with practice.

But looks matter, because at the end of the day, who wants to kiss someone they find ugly?

[Angela]

I always liked 'em short, Jewish, big-nosed, highly intelligent, and balding (just like my dad, except for the short, Jewish, and big-nosed parts.)

Then along comes Danger Man (also nothing like my dad, except in the smarts department), who is pretty much the opposite of my 'type'. Well, he changed my mind, because he's so darned dear and darling. His insides make me forget all about his outsides. You just never know!

[ns123]

Originally Posted by Angela

Then along comes Danger Man ...

Is this actually Danger Man? If it is, he's a total hottie. Heck, I want to date this man from his looks alone.

[Angela]

Yeah, that's really him. Believe it or not, at first I had no interest in him because he was too handsome -- I wasn't attracted to him! What a dingbat I can be.

[Spartan]

Where's the pic of you posing then Angela? Let's see it.

[madgeylou]

i have dated short guys, tall guys, black guys, white guys, chubby guys, thin guys, built guys, guys with long hair, guys with no hair, guys with normal hair, etc etc. you see what i am saying. there's not one external 'thing' that makes me go 'squee.' it's the energy of the entire package, and his physical appearance being attractive to me in some way. not all in the same way.

for what it's worth, i am tall and curvy and pretty. i'm not to every man's taste but i do turn a fair number of heads, even with the extra 30-40 lbs on my frame.

this stuff is all so subjective, it's really hard to break it down to a single attribute or even a single axis within a spectrum.

[Spartan]

Madge, you have dated a lot of guys there!

In the US is dating lots of people a normal thing men and women do? Just wondered.

[madgeylou]

well, i am 35 years old ... and have been dating since i was about 16 ... so that's almost 20 years. even if i only dated 1 guy a year, they would add up after a while.

to answer your question, it varies. some people meet their partners young, some later in life, some prefer to date without partnering up. but i think for a single woman my age, my experience is probably about average.

[Spartan]

Yeah, I suppose it varies. But it just seems like dating is more official or something in the US, something more expected. And after visiting the US, I get the impression that Americans have very good social skills and generally like to talk a lot. They seem naturally more outgoing and confident. I wonder why this is? Perhaps something culturally different in our upbringing?

[lasti]

Originally Posted by Angela

Yeah, that's really him. Believe it or not, at first I had no interest in him because he was too handsome -- I wasn't attracted to him! What a dingbat I can be.

Angela hit the jackpot and doesn't want to take it because she thinks it's too much. But Danger Man's won the jackpot, too.

[openyourize]

Originally Posted by Spartan

'Great personality' is so relative. Many men have wives or girlfriends, yet they don't all have a great personality in my opinion. In fact, I think personality is similar to looks in terms of ethical judgement, as it is genetically influenced. But certain behaviours can be changed with practice.

But looks matter, because at the end of the day, who wants to kiss someone they find ugly?

Actually, I think you just proved my point

[lasti]

Originally Posted by Spartan

But looks matter, because at the end of the day, who wants to kiss someone they find ugly?

If you change your perception (trough your attitude for example), the ugly person may not seem ugly anymore.

[Aztecsfinest]

Dude, I joined this forum JUST so I could answer your question!

Looks when it comes to women, yeah they're one of the factors, but the mistake alot of guys make is thinking women put the same amount of weight on physical attraction.

Man, look at Tommy Lee, he's not attractive, he's greasy, he's hairy he has no care for morals or law... And yet he and most of his band mates get the girl everytime.

Now you might be thinking "Yeah he's rich!"
course he is... So are the models dating him and getting beaten and ruined by them.

Yeah yeah I know, poor them etc.

A woman can say "Yeah I'm into tall guys" but (the ones who aren't 14 anyway) take this only as a preference, like maybe you like blondes but if a smokin brunette started giving you a smile and eye contact bam you're hooked, you want some of that!


As for he ladies, they're attracted to how the guy makes them feel.

You approach them like you just saw a ghost and give them the most bullshit compliment imaginable (yeah you think they're pretty, well duh you're just sayin that to get in her pants, I've been there I know!)

You're a 'nice' guy, like the girls 'say' they want.
How do these guys make the girls feel? Nice? Good? Relaxed? Horny?

When you're talking to a girl, I'll say be yourself, no be your TRUE self, how you'd talk to your best friend. Would you buy flowers and a drink for your best friend? No way, you'd make jokes, make fun of eachother, be laid back and cool. come from a "I'm having fun and damn it so are you" persective ya know!


Now I've been fere for about five minutes writin tis and I don't wanna step on Mr. Pavlinas forum seude shoes but if ya want I can link you to a forum where you can learn how to always get the girl.
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hmm... While I'm here I'm gonna go see what your forum here's about.

cya.

[Spartan]

Originally Posted by Aztecsfinest

Looks when it comes to women, yeah they're one of the factors, but the mistake alot of guys make is thinking women put the same amount of weight on physical attraction.

Any peer reviewed psychological research to support this?

Originally Posted by Aztecsfinest

like maybe you like blondes but if a smokin brunette started giving you a smile and eye contact bam you're hooked, you want some of that!

Just because a hot girl smiled at me, I wouldn't be hooked on her. I wouldn't even think she was worth pursuing. She could be smiling for any number of reasons. Most likely she is smiling just to be friendly.

Originally Posted by Aztecsfinest

As for he ladies, they're attracted to how the guy makes them feel.

I think the same goes for men.

[1onewonjuan]

can a girl answer this?

how attractive can a man be if hes short, good looking, and really knows how to use his brain?

[Elrond]

Originally Posted by Spartan

I think the same goes for men.

I agree. Having sex feels good, making out feels good, being in love with a woman feels good.