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08-13-2008, 08:04 AM
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 |  I want a girlfriend!
I want a girlfriend! My last girlfriend (also my first girlfriend) graduated college & moved away. I want a GF who`s pretty, smart, and can cook. Im outgoing, if you point out a girl in a club (even the turbo hotty 10 girl) I can go approach her without a second thought. I can get frenchkisses any time I go out, and if I want them I can get pretty much arbitrarily many phone #s, whether from the club or just the street at day. But still I only slept with two girls (!!!).  I dont even wanna be a super player type just want a nice girlfriend  Advice???  |
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08-13-2008, 09:03 AM
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You made me smile  It corresponds in my head with Steve's post about wealth ("how much money is really much?" question in particular). Many people are virgins and "hungry" and obsessed for years, and you come here and ask for advice. What advice? It's if a millionaire comes here and says "hey guys, I need a million dollars, because I've just lost one, and I have only two, so I really-really need money!"LOL And congratulations! Advice? You don't need any |
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08-13-2008, 08:13 PM
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08-13-2008, 09:50 PM
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08-14-2008, 03:59 AM
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08-14-2008, 04:10 AM
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Here's what you do...You call the girl after you get her number! You need to be specific on what you actually need help on, because it seems like you have it all figured out, you just need to take action. If you want to find a nice girl, do what you do in the club, but do it in the library or a bookstore.
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08-14-2008, 01:03 PM
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If I had everything figured out then I would already have a gf. Is this board reserved exclusively for the never-had-a-kiss crowd?  Two girls by 24 yrs old is not a lot, havent a lot of guys had that many by 18? Anyway, I go out and meet girls but it doesnt usually go past kissing. A couple times I even got them to my room but they resisted when I tried to get them in bed  My last gf was a little chubby anyway. I couldnt let myself be seen in public with her, and thats really lame. I dont care if shes a super turbo hotty but I at least want a girl I can show to my friends. |
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08-14-2008, 03:10 PM
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As for sleeping with only two girls, are you trying to increase the number of girls just to feel better about your "numbers", or do you want the experience of sleeping with more women? If so, why? Variety? Fun? To become a more skilled lover? Figure out what you want, then figure WHY you want what you want, then figure out if you really want what you think you want! Once you've got this all worked out, THEN you can develop a plan of action. | |
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08-14-2008, 04:49 PM
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qualify every girl you meet until you find one that actually does it for you. From there hang out with her and spend more time and eventually go out. Note: odds are you aren't going to find a good girlfriend in the club, approach girls during the day |
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08-14-2008, 11:20 PM
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You are thinking on what you want. Are you like that perfect person for you? If you are not, you will not meet her, for we get close to similar people.
__________________ Freedom - When people learn to embrace criticism about politicians, since politicians are just employees like you and me. |
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08-15-2008, 05:41 AM
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Well I read something S.P. wrote in a similar thread and it got me thinknig last night (Im overseas so `last night` means a different time to me than to you guys in the west). Thinking `I want girlfriend` is an attempt to change others around me. Maybe instead I should think `I want to become boyfriend`. That way its myself who must change, and I have power over myself   |
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08-16-2008, 08:09 AM
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If you can find girls willing to kiss you, and you can get numbers then you can get a girlfriend. My suggestion is, don't try and get a girl you want as a potential girlfriend into bed on the night you meet her. Instead, just get her number and give her a call and ask her out! Go out with her, get to know her, and if things go well and you get along with each other, take it from there. Instead if you're immediately trying to get a girl home and into your bed, she's going to think all you want is sex and if she's after a relationship that in itself will signal warning bells to her. I also suggest you work on yourself to figure out why you were too ashamed to take your last girlfriend out in public... even if she's chubby, heaps of guys aren't afraid to show off their chubby girls, and no one else really cares! |
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08-16-2008, 02:31 PM
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It's kinda creepy when guys want to bed you right away like that. If you're looking for a relationship, slow down with the sex. Find a girl you can be friends with first, then start going for the physical stuff after you've established some compatability (but don't wait too long, there's a fine line). Always let her set the pace and back off if she seems uncomfortable. Don't look for girlfriends in the clubs, go to where the nice girls are. Find an activity you enjoy with an insane F:M ratio -- cooking class, psychology class, yoga, and church choir come to mind. As for affirmations, I understand you should leave the "I want" out of it, as wanting is a state of not having and therefore pushing away. Instead affirm "I am a wonderful boyfriend" and do visualization of the relationship you desire.
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08-16-2008, 07:05 PM
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| OMG STEVEPAVLINa SAVES THE DAY... AGAIN
OMG... This is so awesome it is wonderful... After making these mental shifts, I thought maybe things would GRADUALLY start to change. I should have known better!!! *TODAY* I met a girl, and three hours later we had sex in the bushes by a scenic river. She's so awesome she blows my former lovers out of the water. Sexy, beautiful, beautiful voice, very smart, dancer, singer, half-asian and Buddhist! Its like the universe is saying, "Yes! I will give you what you ask for in abundance!" The funniest thing was, I was actually planning on visiting a prostitute, then this girl just popped up out of nowhere. Guys.. thank you all sooo much... this is really cool... before/after we did it, we were getting along soooo well. Like it was fate. Stevepavlina... THANK YOU.. Everyone else on the forum.. THANK YOU.. I affirm.. I am an excellent boyfriend, an excellent lover. I'm so happy right now |
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08-16-2008, 09:43 PM
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Maybe I'm crazy, but sump'in smells...
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08-16-2008, 10:56 PM
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I want a girl-friend too; but more than that, I want to make every girl I ever come in to contact with, a happier, more filled with love, healthier in every way, being of light. Also, more important than me getting a girl-friend, is for me to be sincere, genuine and to act from integrity. What's more important to you, than getting a girl-friend? |
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08-16-2008, 11:07 PM
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09-03-2008, 07:13 PM
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I know this sounds crazy, but its actually really hard to get a girlfriend if you want a girlfriend. If you really want a girlfriend you'll tend to give off a needy vibe, get too attached too quickly, scare her off, or start visioning a future with her before you even spend real decent time with her, or even worse fall for the first girl that shows you attention, even if she is wrong for you. A better goal is to improve your dating skills, key skills like approaching, conversation, and physical escalation. Just enjoy meeting girls, avoid putting pressure on it, and have fun, and don't try and force it, if it happens it happens. This is why the guys who dont want a girlfriend, have 20 to pick from, and the guys who really want one have 0. |
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