She love me but she says "I can't say you "I love you" anymore!!"

[engineerIT]

3 month have gone without receiving any sign of love from her.
She changed suddenly!
I didn't do any mistake. (Nothing wrong she said, I never cheated her, I love her soooo much)
We have in relationship for more than 1 year and I never feel so lonely being in a relationship with a girl who love me.

She went to study abroad where my cousin(boy) is studying too.
I asked him to do the detective (after she told me that she can't say me I love you anymore) to be her shadow all the time.
But he said - She loves you bro (he sent me some photos and videos which he took underhand, where she is watching my new photos feeling very happy and kissing them, with eyes fill with tears.
He said too - she doesn't have any other guy

He make me feel good but she is giving me so much pain.

Any body please tell me what is going on. I got lost in this situation
Please tell me what to do
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If I did any grammar mistake, I'm sorry

[engineerIT]

ANGELA, can you give me any sign that I am still in this world and I'm not sleepwalking ;-(

[Angela]

Well, that's kind of freaky; I just felt you calling.

Listen, my sweet. I hear you, and you are in the world. I hear the pain you are going through with this, and I'm sorry you are going through this so painfully.

Now, you know she does not make you feel good, right? And that she is not giving you pain? If you have read what I've written, you probably know that my recommendation, if you want to be in love with your life, is to take 100% responsibility. In your case, that might mean looking boldly at what it really is that is causing you pain: your thoughts about the woman, not the woman herself. She sounds like a darling girl, but my sense is that you are not granting her much freedom to be exactly as she is and exactly as she isn't. What's this detective crap all about? That didn't feel very good doing that, did it? Without freedom there is no love, you see that, don't you?

It's so hard, I know, when you're in the middle of this "in love" stuff, to see what you're really being in your relationship, and to see how you yourself are creating the very thing you are resisting. It hurts! I know, I've been there, and nothing anyone could say would penetrate the pain -- the song I was always singing was: "But I LOVE him!" So I think it's not so easy to hear what I must tell you about this girl you love so much:

The most loving, the most generous thing you can do is to let her go with lots of love. Give her tons of space, and let her work things through for herself. She may come back to you, and she may not -- but if you want this relationship to be loving whether you are together in a romantic relationship or not, you must grant her the freedom to be exactly who she is, to love whomever she loves, and to TRUST her to take her own right actions and make her own choices.

Argh, it's hard, I know! Lots and lots of love to you; you will be okay.

[engineerIT]

I don't know what to say :[......

[engineerIT]

I'm alone, feeling in love. Can't love any other girl. Don't know when all of this will finish.
I'm afraid she will forget about me. She is so far from me now. I sent her sms and emails every night (she said I don't want you to stop sending me sms)

[engineerIT]

I feel terrible, unloved, untouched, unkissed uhhh GOD, why me! !!!!

[wolverine]

Originally Posted by engineerIT

I feel terrible, unloved, untouched, unkissed uhhh GOD, why me! !!!!

Do you love yourself? Could you touch yourself, kiss yourself (in the mirror maybe, or on the hand like an old-fashioned lover?), spend time with yourself valididating that you ARE worth being loved and you are wonderful, even and ESPECIALLY by yourself? Other people have different viewpoints to you and this is true for everyone, so the first step in feeling loved is to love yourself, because if you don't feel like you could love yourself, with your perfect viewpoint/perspective for seeing yourself, then why would someone else? Of course, there are wonderful people out there who can see the beauty in someone who cannot see it themself, but how wonderful to live your life loved not only by someone else but by yourself too!

So my advice is to spend some time really focusing on why you're beautiful and worthy of love (and you ARE!) -- the reasons don't have to be logical or make sense or be what anyone else thinks, but they do have to be YOUR reasons. Touch yourself, find out what you really, truely and honestly love about yourself, and then work on showing this wonderful, beautiful person that is YOU to everyone around you. How could they resist loving you? It doesn't mean they will be IN love with you, but you will be, so it won't matter. When someone comes along to be in love with you then it will just add to your joy, not be the only cause of it.

I hope some of that helps -- I know it is difficult but I honestly found that the only way to truely be happy is to love myself, and I believe this is true for everyone.

Many hugs!


Wolverine