Would you break a promise to yourself?

[Tabs]

I am asking this question to prove a point, please tell me honestly if you would break a promise to yourself before you would break a promise to another person?

When I say another person I mean significant other, children, family, friends, job and acquaintances.

When I say promise I mean you decide to do something for yourself but put it on hold to do something for another.

I constantly break the lose 10Ibs this month promise to myself so you have an example...

You can answer the poll question and leave examples that would be greatly appreciated...

Thanks everyone

QUICK NOTE:
I am have phrased the poll question wrong it should be: Have you broken promises to yourself?

[RTF671]

Doh, I voted no but I only read the poll. Yes I have broken promises to myself but I shall no more after everything I learned much of which came from this site.

[Yellow]

Yeah, I have and I do. I am not sure what you are trying to prove with this.

[seeker5]

Originally Posted by Tabs

I am asking this question to prove a point, please tell me honestly if you would break a promise to yourself before you would break a promise to another person?

When I tell someone I'm going to do something, I really try quite hard to fullfill that. Sometimes I don't get to do it, and sometimes I decide against it, but I really try hard to keep my word and and follow through on my expectation with someone.

So, it's much harder for me to break a promise to someone else, then it is to break a promise with myself.

[Remiel]

Have I? Yes. Is it a good thing? No. How can I keep promises with other people if I cannot keep them with myself?

[garentee]

Originally Posted by seeker5

When I tell someone I'm going to do something, I really try quite hard to fullfill that. Sometimes I don't get to do it, and sometimes I decide against it, but I really try hard to keep my word and and follow through on my expectation with someone.

So, it's much harder for me to break a promise to someone else, then it is to break a promise with myself.

I agree with this 100% and find that I am the same way. I generally though try to stay true to myself.. which is to also stay true to others, yet I am still human and I have broken a lot of promises to both myself and others.. the key is to not beat yourself up over it..

[Dannyboy1]

I mean, I say I'm going to do things all the time that I never get to, but I think that's because I've never made an actual "promise" to myself about it. That's something to think about. How do you make a "promise" to yourself and how do you differentiate it from all the other things you say you're going to do?

[marklang500]

Angela and I are having a similar discussion right now in another thread.

Of course it happens. So I have to vote yes. Promises get broken.

Does that justify breaking promises? No. You have to justify breaking promises with the person you break the promise to. In this case yourself. If you can't justify it, you will have some remorse.

If you break a promise to someone else, they have the right to decide whether it is justified that you broke it. They have the right to beat you up in thier own mind as much as they want or feel is warranted. How you react to that is entirely in your own mind.

If the promise is to yourself, then this becomes quite a "crazy in my head" loop that takes time and reflection to get through. Depending on the weight of the broken promise, it can be a bit more difficult than just "don't beat yourself up".

[Tabs]

Thanks everyone, I was looking for back up support for a statement I made trying to state a case for putting ones self first (becoming the most important person in your own life). I wanted to prove the point that a lot of people would break a promise to themselves first before breaking a promise to someone else.

I figured the best please to get help with that was with my friends over here at PDSP forums.

Thanks again everyone, your help is greatly appreciated.

Tabs