My husband is negative about personal development

[jude]

My husband Wont watch any programs that are to do with growth he is so negative like "Oh whats this about, a guy thats trying to make money off you by telling you how to get what you want just from thinking about it" Its almost as he is scared of personal development. He doesn't have a good work ethic he doesn't know what he wants to do, and doesn't keep with anything that he starts, Although he wont ask for help. I love him but he is so negative. Has anyone else had a similar problem and how did you deal with it? Thanks
Judith.

[Holistic Star]

Jude, Why do you advertise the same site as our new member Orange? Are you related?

Orange, if that is you - I think you should know that spamming your website address is against the terms and conditions.



However if you aren't orange then here is my suggestion. It sounds to me like you are trying to change your husband. You want him to have a better work ethic and get into the same stuff as you. Unfortunately it isn't that easy. The only thing you can do is change yourself. So do that. He will either be so inspired with the changes in you that he will come along of his own volition at a later date, or he will try to drag you back. However it's your decision to allow that. He will be reflecting parts of you that you have disowned, so think about where you are being negative in your life, and where you are holding back and start work on yourself there. Good luck.

[Orange]

Originally Posted by Holistic Star

Jude, Why do you advertise the same site as our new member Orange? Are you related?

Orange, if that is you - I think you should know that spamming your website address is against the terms and conditions.



However if you aren't orange then here is my suggestion. It sounds to me like you are trying to change your husband. You want him to have a better work ethic and get into the same stuff as you. Unfortunately it isn't that easy. The only thing you can do is change yourself. So do that. He will either be so inspired with the changes in you that he will come along of his own volition at a later date, or he will try to drag you back. However it's your decision to allow that. He will be reflecting parts of you that you have disowned, so think about where you are being negative in your life, and where you are holding back and start work on yourself there. Good luck.

yeah, shes my mother. shall i ask her to take it off her acount?

[Holistic Star]

oh I didn't realise that. My apologies. I take it back.


Sometimes people set up fake accounts and false problems in order to spam. But that's not happening here so its fine.

[Alexjstrandberg]

This is the way I see it. I used to be so excited about personal development and all the other stuff that I was learning that I wanted to share it with other people-this was met with a lot of resistance. Since then I developed an attitude of sharing with people who desire to learn this stuff.

When I did try it seemed like there was an invisible wall that made them absolutely refuse to read, listen or watch any of this stuff-it confused me for a while. This is the explanation that I came up with: (it's based on re-incarnation so if you don't believe any of it, the rest won't make any sense)

We reincarnate on this earth to learn certain lessons in order to grow and increase our consciousness. Each time we re-incarnate we grow a little more and increase the amount of light we have inside of ourselves. We start off on the low end of the spectrum (very dim light) as very low vibing creatures (rapist, murderers, robbers).

Each lifetime we grow from our experience and our light increases just a little bit. We only gain a little bit more light inside of our consciousness because too much light would cause us to burn out (like sticking a 12 v battery into a 6 volt socket)

Our higher selves understand that too much light and we would burn out so they create barriers to protect us from going to high too quick. So a person who has less light wouldn't be able to read any of the higher vibing stuff out there because it would be too much light for them to handle. The higher self knows this and blocks them from reading Tolle, Steve P. or any other self help/spiritual stuff out there because they aren't ready for it at that moment.

At the same time, why people are on this site and posting on this forum is because you are at a certain vibration/consciousness level while others would say this is all b.s and refuse to even read it.

I draw this from my experience with other people but in my own experience. There have been books that I took a look at and out and out refused to read. I thought they were stupid and a waste of my time. After going through a bunch of experiences and raising my consciousness a lot I was finally ready to take another look. When that happened I read/listened/watched those things with ease and no resistance what so ever.

[jude]

Originally Posted by Alexjstrandberg

This is the way I see it. I used to be so excited about personal development and all the other stuff that I was learning that I wanted to share it with other people-this was met with a lot of resistance. Since then I developed an attitude of sharing with people who desire to learn this stuff.

When I did try it seemed like there was an invisible wall that made them absolutely refuse to read, listen or watch any of this stuff-it confused me for a while. This is the explanation that I came up with: (it's based on re-incarnation so if you don't believe any of it, the rest won't make any sense)

We reincarnate on this earth to learn certain lessons in order to grow and increase our consciousness. Each time we re-incarnate we grow a little more and increase the amount of light we have inside of ourselves. We start off on the low end of the spectrum (very dim light) as very low vibing creatures (rapist, murderers, robbers).

Each lifetime we grow from our experience and our light increases just a little bit. We only gain a little bit more light inside of our consciousness because too much light would cause us to burn out (like sticking a 12 v battery into a 6 volt socket)

Our higher selves understand that too much light and we would burn out so they create barriers to protect us from going to high too quick. So a person who has less light wouldn't be able to read any of the higher vibing stuff out there because it would be too much light for them to handle. The higher self knows this and blocks them from reading Tolle, Steve P. or any other self help/spiritual stuff out there because they aren't ready for it at that moment.

At the same time, why people are on this site and posting on this forum is because you are at a certain vibration/consciousness level while others would say this is all b.s and refuse to even read it.

I draw this from my experience with other people but in my own experience. There have been books that I took a look at and out and out refused to read. I thought they were stupid and a waste of my time. After going through a bunch of experiences and raising my consciousness a lot I was finally ready to take another look. When that happened I read/listened/watched those things with ease and no resistance what so ever.

thanks this is very helpful, sometimes it is hard to be patient, this makes sense to me .