Dark & Light-worker in Love?

[Niamh]

What if...

Two people in love continue to grow as human beings. They are both extremely open minded, and they greatly value each others individuality.

Now... As time goes by, one of them chooses the align him/herself with the Darkworker's path; the other chooses to be a Lightworker. Slowly but surely, they immerse themselves deeper and deeper into their own path.

Can the relationship grow, strengthen, survive?

Opinions, hunches, hopeful comments, flat-out condemnations?

[Alexjstrandberg]

Not for long unless the darkworker changes. If the darkworker doesn't change then it's the karma of the light worker and that person has lessons to learn and grow from before leaving the DW.

We tend to attract people on the same vibration level as us. If they aren't on the same vibration level (ones honest while the other one cheats) it's because we need to learn lessons from the other person to increase our own consciousness.

[Angela]

Great. Now that song will be going through my head all day.

I think that having values in common is a pretty effective thing in a successful loving, long-term, mutually beneficial relationship (LLTMBR). A darkworker and a lightworker are going to find that their basic, most deeply held values are in conflict, for the most part. On the surface it may look like they want the same things, but underlying those desires are values that don't support one another. So I think the relationship can grow, strengthen and survive, but that might not look the way you'd normally imagine when you think about an LLTMBR. It might mean great challenge, hardship, pain, and separation, and that's fine. Not what I want in a LLTMBR, but certainly what some people are committed to, not realizing it's in conflict with what they want.

[Niamh]

Originally Posted by Angela

Great. Now that song will be going through my head all day.

I think that having values in common is a pretty effective thing in a successful loving, long-term, mutually beneficial relationship (LLTMBR). A darkworker and a lightworker are going to find that their basic, most deeply held values are in conflict, for the most part. On the surface it may look like they want the same things, but underlying those desires are values that don't support one another. So I think the relationship can grow, strengthen and survive, but that might not look the way you'd normally imagine when you think about an LLTMBR. It might mean great challenge, hardship, pain, and separation, and that's fine. Not what I want in a LLTMBR, but certainly what some people are committed to, not realizing it's in conflict with what they want.

Thank you for replying, Angela and Alex. They are great answers. It's really a thousand times better to read the opinions of others. It makes the reality of the situation so much more "in your face".
Again, I really appreciate the answers.

[Kazeko]

Well, the defining words for me in your initial post are "one of them chooses". Are we talking about a totally conscious choise?

If we're not excluding unconscious choise, then my answer to "Can the relationship grow, strengthen, survive?" is: Yes, absolutely.

It can be really tough. But I beleive it's still possible. Besides people can switch polarities.

Here is my personal example. My wife can be named "a darkworker". I considered myself "a lightworker". And our levels of consciousness are not very high. To be closer to my wife, I switched my polarity to be aligned with hers. And it was my wise conscious choise. Now we love and support each other and have less conflicts. Besides, I beleive, that the choise of my wife was unconscious. I beleive that as we both reach higher levels, we can keep our polarities or switch them - i.e. choose consciously. The road goes ever on

[Brutha]

We tend to attract people on the same vibration level as us. If they aren't on the same vibration level[...]

Both a darkworker and a lightworker have high vibration levels.

If we're not excluding unconscious choise, then my answer to "Can the relationship grow, strengthen, survive?" is: Yes, absolutely.

Those people don't really choose. If you aren't conscious of your action you will do different action at different times and won't be consistent.
That's really difficult and as a result there aren't much lightworkers or darkworkers.

[Niamh]

Originally Posted by Kazeko

Here is my personal example. My wife can be named "a darkworker". I considered myself "a lightworker". And our levels of consciousness are not very high. To be closer to my wife, I switched my polarity to be aligned with hers. And it was my wise conscious choise. Now we love and support each other and have less conflicts. Besides, I beleive, that the choise of my wife was unconscious. I beleive that as we both reach higher levels, we can keep our polarities or switch them - i.e. choose consciously. The road goes ever on

Thanks Kazeko It's interesting that you chose to switch polarities to be closer to your wife. It caught me by surprise, the fact that you chose love over the path that calls to you. *hearts* In that case, I would guess that in order to strengthen the relationship, the better choice would be to do what you're doing: keeping the balance.

Well, the defining words for me in your initial post are "one of them chooses". Are we talking about a totally conscious choise?

Yes, it is conscious. The one called to the lightworker's path is consciously moving towards it. The one pulled to the darkworker's path is also, consciously moving towards it (mainly because of the need to explore this side, feeling that it is misunderstood).

[Niamh]

Originally Posted by Brutha

Both a darkworker and a lightworker have high vibration levels.
Those people don't really choose. If you aren't conscious of your action you will do different action at different times and won't be consistent.
That's really difficult and as a result there aren't much lightworkers or darkworkers.

I'd love to know your opinion, Brutha. Could it work?

[Brutha]

I'd love to know your opinion, Brutha. Could it work?

While I can easily see such a relationship reaching the quality of the average relationship, I don't know whether two highly aware people would settle for a average relationship.

[Niamh]

Originally Posted by Brutha

While I can easily see such a relationship reaching the quality of the average relationship, I don't know whether two highly aware people would settle for a average relationship.

Amazing... amazing point!

[Kazeko]

I've just thought....
Yes, I think I should say, we're neither lightworkers, nor darkworkers, my wife and me. As I said from the beginning, we're not that highly aware... I talked about our tendencies, our dominant uncounscious choises of actions. However I did some counscious movement towards "dark polarity", in order to be aligned with my wife. But we are free to raise our awareness eventually and to choose polarity too.

I think, there's no single pre-defined path for any person. Different paths call us, and we are free to choose, and free to change them. So, I think, changing polarity by one member of the couple is a valid option.

[Nosce]

I agree that we are free to change them, but it doesn't make it right. We don't come to this world to have happy relationships and that's it. If a path calls my being, it means it's the path I'm supposed to take, and just because the person I'm in a relationship with has a different path doesn't mean I have to change mine just because. What if the relationship ends because of other factors? What then? I know of tons of examples of this happening, from friends to family.

I say, if both in the relationship accept each others path and still love each other and respect that, then I don't see a problem. In my view, changing one's path is out of the question, at least if the only factor is the relationship.

But finding people that are that accepting of each other is pretty hard, so I would consider myself lucky if I found one.

[Niamh]

Originally Posted by Nosce

But finding people that are that accepting of each other is pretty hard, so I would consider myself lucky if I found one.

Well then, I hope you're lucky!