Well, he has explained that he is primarily heterosexual. It's merely an equal opportunity and love of sex with people in general. I can understand that because I have similar feelings toward the same sex. Both of us have a similar orientation-neither identifies as quite bisexual but we aren't heterosexual either. For him it was not an inquisitive desire to explore but rather a selfish desire to have multiple sex partners. He feared my reaction to the revelation that he had those desires. Most women would not accept that and automatically label a man gay.
We talk about our needs and feelings openly now so it doesn't become a problem. I have stated that if the need strikes him that he is allowed to come to me and express his thoughts and vise versa. I suggested an open relationship and he did not want one. We have incorporated the fantasy into our physical relationship and I have reconciled with his sexuality. It is the deceit that has been difficult to reconcile with.
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