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07-25-2008, 12:12 AM
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I have fallen in love. I needed a better shot of myself for facebook so instead of waiting for the right photo to happen, I got my camera set to self timer and just started taking photos. I suddenly saw this beautiful woman there. but how can that be?? I was feeling so the opposite all day and gone through quite a bit lately. but suddenly today I fall in love with this woman- for the first time ever I think! I was always so full of self criticism, but now, suddenly that voice is gone. Im in love! she is stunning! wow! I know, for some this comes naturally, but I was never one of those, I actually think that in my teens and twenties I was the most self critical and self destructive person I know... I will start treating myself better now. Oh my , how did I not know how wonderful I was?? Yesterday I decided to go on a man diet: meaning no dating, no falling in love, no crushes, no expectations for 30 days. I just felt there was too much stuff happening in this area, meeting many guys, but I wasn't attracting the right stuff. So I decided put the whole thing a side, and what do you know? Ive discovered me! and how wonderful I am! hope this lasts. I don't want to ever critisize myself again. |
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07-25-2008, 12:24 AM
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Why not take yourself out on some dates during this period? Woo yourself, let yourself know how wonderful and desirable you are. Treat yourself like the most loveable creature in the world -- flowers, great food, long walks on the beach, fabulous (solo) sex, the whole nine yards! Maybe there is a date you've always dreamed of going on, like a weekend in wine country or skydiving or Disneyland? Take yourself! I love you, too. |
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07-25-2008, 12:47 AM
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 Angela- I like the dating yourself idea. I have chosen not to date for a long time, but perhaps I should woo myself  | |
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07-25-2008, 12:53 AM
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Wouldn't that be fun? Like, mail yourself a love note, or send yourself your favorite flowers with a gushy message? Or take yourself on a sensuous spa date, massage and facial, then take your glowing face and bod out to eat and drink something delicious, and proudly show off your supple gorgeousness? Or go take a salsa dancing class and allow some lucky men to hold you in their arms as you learn how to glide and wiggle?
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07-25-2008, 01:03 AM
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07-25-2008, 05:44 AM
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I think I'll send loving emails to myself (from a different email address...hey, a girl can fantasize!). | |
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07-25-2008, 06:15 AM
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i did the man diet once, it was the most greatest time of my life!! i fell in love with myself too! it was so so great! the coolest thing was i started feeling really spiritually connected.... weird things happened... one day i did take myself on a date, just to dinner and a movie, but i even dressed up for myself and i looked great and it was so much fun. and on the way there i came across a gold necklace on the ground and i kept it. it looked shiny and perfectly new! and on the way home there was a perfectly clean new fresh pink carnation on the sidewalk right in my path as i walked out of the theater. so i kept that too. it was a pretty awesome experience, i felt like some spiritual thingees were watching over me and were so happy for me. HAVE FUN!!!!! oh and while this happened like 4 years ago for me, and well it didnt last forever and ever, i am still able to go back to it and love myself and "date myself" when i want. and i am much much much less inclined to criticize myself now. it still happens now and then, but not near as much as i used to.
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07-25-2008, 04:08 PM
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So, I emailed myself a short love note. Woa. First, I felt really weird writing it. And when I first received it, I felt even weirder. But then, when I read it, I felt warm and tingly. "UberLover" gave me the best love note EVER of my life. Because UberLover knew exactly what I needed to hear right now. Now I feel all weird again. Amazing how treating yourself nicely brings out alot of discomfort. |
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07-25-2008, 05:27 PM
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LOVE this post and LOVE LOVE LOVE the suggestions! | |
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07-25-2008, 05:28 PM
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you are so wonderful Angela! made me laugh. this is gonna b fun.funny thing is I posted one of the photos took last night on my proflie and got 5 very nice comments. One of them was "Wow! that photo must have been taken by someone special who really likes you" damn right it was. | |
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07-25-2008, 05:35 PM
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I also found 20$ in my yoga class 2 days ago, I asked everyone if they lost 20$. Till someone said- Its for you to go treat yopurself to an amazing breakfast. | |
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07-25-2008, 05:48 PM
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But you know the Universe is really serious about you when it invites you away for the weekend.  Or to meet its parents! | |
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07-25-2008, 06:28 PM
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you may not believe me but I swear its true... I have family in the far east whom I spoke to yesterday and whom I havent visited in a decade . I said I want to visit you some day. they said- well you better hurry cause we are leaving August tenth. now they sent me a mail- Please come we will pay for your flight and you can stay here after we leave. theres a cook living in the house who can take care of you. I might do that - take a 10 day holiday in pure nature... ooohh lets see... | |
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07-30-2008, 06:32 PM
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yes! Im still so into to it. Tommorrow Im flying away on holiday. And after telling myself how great I feel this morning, I got a call from a minister congradulating me that I recieved the govermental achievment award which I applied for! (I thought they were kidding- but they werent). My focus has shifted from out to in, and its good! *plus Im 3 days "raw" |
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07-30-2008, 06:44 PM
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I am loving this thread! So many smiles! I completely forgot about loving myself! Except as a concept, somewhere in the back of my brain. Years ago, I'd call & leave messages on my voicemail, telling me what a great job I was doing! Thanks for the reminder. My kids will be with their Dads for a week, starting Monday... |
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08-24-2008, 05:16 AM
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