Need help and advice on becoming more sociable

[Mowgli]

Hi all, I am a new member on this forum. Let me introduce myself, My name is Amit, I am 19 years old, from Birmingham, England.

I started this thread becuase I need help and advice on becoming more sociable and talkative in groups. I use to have speech impediment which dented my confidence greatly, which I became shy, timid and reserved just becuase of that. I was scared to speak. My speech has now become much better and I've opened up a bit, I've made a lot of freinds, however, I am still reserved. I'm very good at talking to people of one on one or even two and one. But I've got difficulty talking in groups. Its not that I don't want to talk, its just that I sometimes think I wont be heard, or if I say something it might be irrelevant or they'll just ignore it. I'm soft spoken as well. I hope the members here understand, its just like a lads night out in the pub, 7 boys, and I'm one of them who is reserved and don't know what to say, or even when to speak, while the rest are all talking and going on and on.

Thanks in advance,
Amit

[Kazeko]

What an irony... seems like people ignore you even here at forums... Let me break the ice...

An old pattern again. Yes, you have reasons for this, but you take things too seriously. Relax. Let yourself go. Don't be too involved, and the universe will do the rest.

Now some practical brainstorm advice:

- join your local Toastmasters club
- make sure you're not the only sober person at pub
- define some "daily talk quota" and go do it no matter what
- show up often, even if you stay silent... eventually someone will talk to you
- speak loudly alone, read poems, sing songs

[Mowgli]

Originally Posted by Kazeko

What an irony... seems like people ignore you even here at forums... Let me break the ice...

An old pattern again. Yes, you have reasons for this, but you take things too seriously. Relax. Let yourself go. Don't be too involved, and the universe will do the rest.

Now some practical brainstorm advice:

- join your local Toastmasters club
- make sure you're not the only sober person at pub
- define some "daily talk quota" and go do it no matter what
- show up often, even if you stay silent... eventually someone will talk to you
- speak loudly alone, read poems, sing songs

LOL. Thanks for your reply, I will take your suggestions down.

[Orange]

Originally Posted by Mowgli

Hi all, I am a new member on this forum. Let me introduce myself, My name is Amit, I am 19 years old, from Birmingham, England.

I started this thread becuase I need help and advice on becoming more sociable and talkative in groups. I use to have speech impediment which dented my confidence greatly, which I became shy, timid and reserved just becuase of that. I was scared to speak. My speech has now become much better and I've opened up a bit, I've made a lot of freinds, however, I am still reserved. I'm very good at talking to people of one on one or even two and one. But I've got difficulty talking in groups. Its not that I don't want to talk, its just that I sometimes think I wont be heard, or if I say something it might be irrelevant or they'll just ignore it. I'm soft spoken as well. I hope the members here understand, its just like a lads night out in the pub, 7 boys, and I'm one of them who is reserved and don't know what to say, or even when to speak, while the rest are all talking and going on and on.

Thanks in advance,
Amit

Talk to me ill be your friend! lol got live messenger?