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07-22-2008, 04:59 PM
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 |  Relationship and Personal Trouble - Help!
I am new to this forum and I have edited this post from what I originally wrote as I think I was going on a bit! In short, I have had a lot of terrible things happen to me throughout my life, mainly through 12-22 years of age. Whilst I have recently sought some professional help with some of these issues, specifically bereavement counselling (my counsellor was wonderful and has helped me enormously), this help was charity based and regrettably had to end. I am now at loss not only with how to move forward with my own personal development but how to move forward with my relationship with my partner. Myself: I have spent much of my life locked in survival mode and I desperately want to try and move on and rebuild myself, but I don't know where to start, or even who I am any more. Who I became to survive - defensive, fake confidence, etc, is crumbling away, which I know is a good thing, but I don't seem to relate to or to be able to work with the pieces that are left. I feel like I don't know how to function even within everyday life. I don't know if this makes sense or not, I have no idea what to do?!?!? My relationship with my partner: Sadly, during/post counselling our relationship has become so strained that I think we are pretty much on the last go of it. I love my partner dearly and think the world of him, and he feels the same way about me. However, all we have done of late is fight and bicker. He feels that I don't let him in or show vulnerability, that I function as a single unit and that I am defensive/aggressive/argumentative to anything and everything. I feel that the doors are wide open and that my heart is on my sleeve, that 1+1 actually equals 2 and that whilst I accept I am quick-tempered and am prone to stubbornness, I takes two to tango. I don't want to loose the good things that we have together but I don't know what is real any more, whether we are just not compatible or if I am sabotaging one of the few good things that has happened to me. I am so confused I don't know what to do, please could someone offer some advise? Last edited by thelittlemouse; 07-23-2008 at 02:26 PM. Reason: Going on too much! |
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