Negative Emotions produced by Disceplinary actions

[Yellow]

How do you discipline a child while taking care of their feelings? Doesn't most disciplinary action produce some sort of negative feelings in the child? What extent do you care about those negative feelings that are produced while disciplining them?

[Alexjstrandberg]

No it doesn't unless you have anger and resentment behind disciplining them. When you add anger and negative emotions to it, the child will pick up on it and it will do damage. Yelling isn't abuse, it's simply raising your voice to get your message across-being abusive is abusive.

Discipline is very important to a child's development. A child that runs wild and has massive disrespect for the parent is an undisciplined child.

The kid basically relies on you for survival so he/she needs to know that you are strong enough to protect and provide for them. Without discipline the child doesn't respect because the child is stronger than you. The kid needs to rely on you for survival but they can dominate you so it makes them very insecure.

My suggestion, discipline them and set proper boundaries but later after emotions have calmed down explain to them why you did it and what they need to change in order for it to not happen again.