Relationships and spiritual/cultural differences

[StellaBlue]

Sorry this is long. I understand if you don’t want to read it all!

I just met a man who I was instantly drawn to and attracted to although he is completely not the type I would normally go for. Physically, he isn’t even someone I would usually take a second look at (not that he isn’t attractive, just not my type); however, we made eye contact for the first time and I melted. It is like I have known him forever and he feels the same way.

I am a very free spirited, open-minded, spiritually aware person. I’m an artist, a vegetarian, very healthy, I love to go to music festivals, go dancing, travel, etc. This man is nothing like me.

He is 10 years older than me, born and raised in the south and has never left. He eats meat and is not a very conscious eater. He doesn’t “seem” to be a very spiritually aware person (although I can’t say this for certain, because I don’t bring my spirituality up with people who I don’t know are ready to receive what I have to say with an open mind). I get the feeling that he is sort of a “Christian by association” because that is the culture he was raised in. He owns his own business and also works in the medical field part time. I am not at all a business-minded person. He wears trendy clothing and seems to be concerned with his appearance. He also lives in a different state…

But, on the other hand, he is wonderful with my daughter. He is a single dad who has been raising his son since the mother walked out when he was an infant (very attractive to me, as my daughter’s father walked out on us). He is responsible, respectful, self-sufficient, a hard worker. He has a great sense of humor. He has love pouring out of him. His eyes just glow. He is compassionate, kind and so passionate. He is strong, bold, proud and masculine, but is not afraid to show femininity. He allows himself to be vulnerable and honest with me, and when I am with him, I feel comfortable enough to show my own vulnerability. He treats me better than any man has ever treated me. He looks at me like I am perfect. He is attracted to my independence, strength and intelligence. He is such a positive person, and I think that he unknowingly practices IM. He told me that his life started going well for him when he started thinking positively about every situation.

Rationally, I am thinking that there is no way I should be with this man. Spirituality and self-awareness are extremely important to me and I am not so sure that we are on the same level, but at the same time, another part of me is telling me to try it out. There had to be a reason we met and were so drawn to each other. He is such a loving person. I am hesitant because I don’t want to lower my vibration with someone who is not spiritually aware, but then again, who I am I to say someone so passionate and loving necessarily vibrates low just because of a supposed spiritual ignorance. He feels like such a "real" person. Maybe he needs me at this time for some reason or I have something important to learn from being with him. *sigh*

So I asked for guidance. I asked for a dream, a sign, or something to point me in the right direction. I just got home from a long trip. I thought about this situation the whole time, and I had pretty much talked myself out of going back to see him, but I was still waiting on the guidance I knew would come. I met up with my mom before I even got back to my house, and she said “Do you like my new shirt?” In large letters, her shirt said “Give it a chance!” Perhaps the sign I was waiting for? What do you think? Is it possible to have a relationship with someone who has these differences, or am I overthinking this? Maybe I should just go with it and see what happens?

Again, sorry so long…

[shindow]

First of all,I am not a native of english-speaking person.

You mean you are a man ,and you fall in love with a man ,That's crazy ,how can it be,maybe i didn't get you meaning .If you like him ,just do it .what you believe does not matter with what he believes.

[StellaBlue]

Originally Posted by shindow

First of all,I am not a native of english-speaking person.

You mean you are a man ,and you fall in love with a man ,That's crazy ,how can it be,maybe i didn't get you meaning .If you like him ,just do it .what you believe does not matter with what he believes.

lol No I am a woman, and I am not in love. I just met him. Thank you for responding though.

[Sanity Panda]

I'd give the relationship a chance. It seems to be what you want most.

Regarding the lowering of vibrations, there's always the possability of moving away if it doesn't work out. Besides if every high vibration person only associated with their own kind, what would happen to "lower vibration" people?

He doesn't sound like that anyhow.

[StellaBlue]

Originally Posted by Sanity Panda

I'd give the relationship a chance. It seems to be what you want most.

Regarding the lowering of vibrations, there's always the possability of moving away if it doesn't work out. Besides if every high vibration person only associated with their own kind, what would happen to "lower vibration" people?

He doesn't sound like that anyhow.

I do want that I suppose. I am just nervous about the prospect of starting a relationship with someone who is so different from what I would normally want. I really want someone that I can grow spiritually with. I suppose it will be a good experience for me to venture into a new area, or perhaps I will find that he complements me?

Thanks for responding.