Help! Sexy women are everywhere!

[Jamie]

*mwhahaha*

Flip! I had the most amazing time again last night. It's utterly bizzare though, if you put me in a regular pub or club setting, I'd be so out of sorts, and feel uneasy and awkward with people (plus, I often don't drink if I'm out, so that kinda isn't the norm). If I'm in a salsa club, I'm a completely different person, even I don't know who I am; and it's such a blast. For one, I completely love dancing salsa; it's so fun, sensual, explosive, passionate, and there's a whole spectrum of feelings and texture to the movement between two people. Plus, it's like one gorgeous woman after another ...

It's really good for me, because I've never been so good with women, and it builds this abundance mentality thing, which is really spot on, the complete opposite of obsessing over one woman (which I have done in the past; not cool).

It all makes me realise how more and more I like women, how they move and flow, how they are, how they think and smile. It's just so weird though, how I'm so easy, smooth, fluid and natural, when I'm dancing, and then I feel so awkward and stunted when I'm just holding a conversation, I guess there's some fear there on my part; but when you dance, you don't have to say a word, it's all non verbal communication.

I dunno where this post is going ... but there were a few women last night who seemed quite in to me (am sure they were); and very often, the feeling is reciprocated. I wouldn't have minded just appearing with them, somewhere more secluded, alone, just the two of us, but I didn't press forward. I have to ask myself, why not? why do I resist? what am I afraid of?

A big part of it, I think, is me caring too much what other people think of me, or my reputation. Also, I have this notion that I should have just one girl, be monogomous; that's down to social conditioning I guess (not following your own inner nature). So, there's like an abundance of women, I'm attracted to, and I can feel it's a two way thing. Why should I choose one over another? I think it's a lot to do with being in touch with how you feel, what you want, and disregarding what society, or other people tell you is good.

Another thing that strikes me, is how much I like being single, and the freedom that gives me, to come and go and do as I please, to follow my own bliss in life (if I had even more money, that'd be such a blast, there's so many things I'd love to do, incl. Venice full marathon). That's what money is really, isn't it; party tokens!!

:P

[Rose of Cairo]

first, you don't have to be monogamous. You can have several relationships simultaneously, just be honest with the girls about it. There are many people, including girls, who live this way.

Second, you don't have to be in any relationship at all. You can remain single, date one or several women at the same time, and tell them that you won't commit to more. Again just be honest about it. There are also many people, including girls, who live this way.

Third, just because you "appear somewhere" with a girl, talk to her, go out with her, flirt with her, are alone with her, or even invite her at your home to have dinner and watch a movie together... doesn't mean you immediately have to have sex with her. If you're still feeling uncomfortable around women as soon as you're not dancing, maybe getting relaxed would be the first step to make? See many women privately, do things together, spend 1:1 time with them, talk a lot, laugh... and wait till you're very comfortable with any woman before you decide.

Now it's like you're entering a bakery full of cakes and they all look so delicious that you don't know which one to eat. Maybe when you know them better you'll realize they're not all cakes you want to eat.

Just my spontaneous 2 cts.

[dali]

Rose of Cairo is talkin good sense. I had a strawberry tart the other day. The pastry cup was crisp and blew out like a golden dress upturned ,the cream was light and fluffy, rich sticky see through sauce poured over two lovely big strawbwerries. I was in my bliss when I took it home. I slipped into the kitchen to make a nice pot of tea and ,ready at last ,sat down to savour and enjoy every sensual moment. . .Can you imagine my horror when my tooth almost broke on the first bite? Glad you are finding a new freedom in salsa and that you are happy to be discovering your bliss .Just remember even although some fruits look ripe for the bite dont necessarily mean that they are. A good woman unlike a good cake usually likes to be appreciated for a long time and even then might not permit you to show your teeth... Enjoy the journey and stop faffing about yourself. God doesnt make anything less than excellence.You are amazing.Take your time to let the women you meet see that.

[Alexjstrandberg]

good job man, keep it up

cheers!