Have sex and then over, how u think?

[Zane]

i've had sex once with my gf, and we broke up 1 year ago, and now when i have new gf, i just aim to have sex with them and i seem to not care about the after part of the relation. is it right or wrong? am i kinda guilty or something?

[Kazeko]

For me that's perfectly fine. You're not guilty Enjoy your life!

[Zane]

Originally Posted by Kazeko

For me that's perfectly fine. You're not guilty Enjoy your life!

thanks, but some of them say this is guilty when u just use your body for sexual needs, then dumb them. anyway, u make me feel better, thanks.
more please!

[akneese]

All relationships may not turn out that way but enjoy your freedom and be careful!!!!

[Kazeko]

I think you should choose the "right" girls. If you deceive a girl, if you tell her you love her and want to marry (for example), and then have sex and leave - this is not good, surely. That's where you really "dumb" them.

We can raise standards a bit. If you know from the beginning, that a girl have some feelings about you, if you know it would hurt her a lot if you "use her body" and leave - it is also wrong to have plain sex and nothing more with her.

But if the girl wants just sex, not relationship, just as you do (or let's call it "sex relationship") or short-term relationship - that is a fair deal which is totally correct. None gets hurt.

[Zane]

Originally Posted by akneese

All relationships may not turn out that way but enjoy your freedom and be careful!!!!

thanks a lot. i know what u mean.

[Zane]

Originally Posted by Kazeko

I think you should choose the "right" girls. If you deceive a girl, if you tell her you love her and want to marry (for example), and then have sex and leave - this is not good, surely. That's where you really "dumb" them.

We can raise standards a bit. If you know from the beginning, that a girl have some feelings about you, if you know it would hurt her a lot if you "use her body" and leave - it is also wrong to have plain sex and nothing more with her.

But if the girl wants just sex, not relationship, just as you do (or let's call it "sex relationship") or short-term relationship - that is a fair deal which is totally correct. None gets hurt.

i perfectly understand what you mean.I don't know how those girls may think, but when i have relation with them, we never think about marry or something else, it's a short-term relation as you said, we enjoy time being with each other, and sex is a part of it, then we just stop the relation just as it must be, with this way some girls might be a little hurt, some don't. the problem is i may feel bad by myself when can't find true love.
and i also want to say that i'm very young, so we are at the age of enjoying without thinking, right?

[Kazeko]

Originally Posted by Zane

and i also want to say that i'm very young, so we are at the age of enjoying without thinking, right?

I'd say, you're at the age of enjoying without feeling bad or worrying or taking things too seriously. But you should always think and be careful (I mean "safe sex") No matter what your age is.

[alegro]

Originally Posted by Zane

i just aim to have sex with them and i seem to not care about the after part of the relation. is it right or wrong? am i kinda guilty or something?

I agree with what the others have said - if you want to have sex, then have sex. Guilt about normal physiological functions and desires is something wrong.

But why do you say you only have sex with your GF (presumably that's "girlfriend"?)? Isn't it a more sensible thing to decide about entering a relationship after you have had sex?

I don't think this is just a matter of definition. If you make decisions about staying together (like calling someone your "girlfriend") without knowing if your love life is truly fulfilling, that feels a little premature ...

[clair08]

I agree that you should be honest with the girl and tell u don't really care for her or want to marry her. But I don't agree thats it's right to have sex and break up. Every time you have sex or do anything sexual with a person I think you're establishing a connection and that sex is something that effects how we see ourselves. Every time u have sex then break up its like you keep giving away pieces of yourself a destroying your self image. In short sex is for marriage.