Potentially awkward

[Pete588]

Hi guys,

Liking this girl at the moment. Trouble is she doesn't like me back (and she has a boyfriend now) but it wasn't me that told her I like her-I want to know what to say to her if/when she tells me. I suspect she think's I'm a bit creepy and needy because she doesn't know where I got her e-mail from and I asked her to come and watch me in a play. She did say herself that she would come and see me (she initially suggested it), but she couldn't have meant it looking back and I must have taken her too literally.

Any help is appreciated.

Cheers,

Pete

[Remiel]

Originally Posted by Pete588

Hi guys,

Liking this girl at the moment. Trouble is she doesn't like me back (and she has a boyfriend now) but it wasn't me that told her I like her-I want to know what to say to her if/when she tells me. I suspect she think's I'm a bit creepy and needy because she doesn't know where I got her e-mail from and I asked her to come and watch me in a play. She did say herself that she would come and see me (she initially suggested it), but she couldn't have meant it looking back and I must have taken her too literally.

Any help is appreciated.

Cheers,

Pete

Rather than projecting yourself onto her why not just ask? (in regards to the couldn't have meant it)

I'm a firm believer in taking other people at face value OR clarifying with them what they meant. If I believe there are other motives I will question them about it. Now this way of thinking isn't necessarily true in all circumstances so people who I know are con artists or deceitful I'll do something different. For those who just fall into the category of a normal human being I prefer to seek clarification and understand them rather than assume I am somehow good enough to know what they mean.


Also if she talks to you why not just be honest about it? Is there something particularly wrong with that?

[Pete588]

Cheers for the reply.

I'm not sure whether it matters if she meant it or not-I was just using that to help paint the picture.

Also, what do you mean by 'projecting' in this instance?