Which side to take?

[srbelnap]

Situation: Jill, who you care about, makes a stupid decision that has effects on Jack, a stranger. You hardly know Jack, but you still sympathize for his unfortunate circumstance. However, Jill will likely come to you for support and encouragement, even thought you strongly believe what she did was stupid.

What is the best thing to do? I know you should lie about what you think, as that is ultimately detrimental to the well-being of everyone. But how do you maintain a healthy relationship for a possibly explosive incident?

[Jarrod]

Care about Jill and treat her gently. It sounds like you know her well so you should know where her boundaries are.

You probably shouldn't say 'you were stupid' unless that's the way you usually talk to each other.

So try to avoid landmines you know of while letting her know your view.

You know her better than us and I think knowing them is probably the best shot you have of helping them appropriately.

Good luck.