Well, there is a girl...

[srbelnap]

I guess I'll just jump into it. I suppose it's important to mention that she's the first person with who I've had a serious relationship.

I met her, and we clicked. We made each other happy without trying, and our relationship was effortless. I suppose that was the result of the initial infatuation. She's physically appealing, she's talented, she's intelligent. However, she's also quiet, naive and blond. Her combined attributes are so complex that I doubt there many like her, and this makes her so much more attractive to me.

So while the first months were exciting, the initial euphoria inevitably faded. She began to miss our "what we were", and grew tired of the what we were. She decided that our turn was up.

Four months passed, and she came forward to propose friendship. When I was cautious and prevented myself from giving her a straight yes, she said she still had feelings for me, and she wanted me in her life. Contrary to this, she refused to be anything more friends. I decided that if I ever wanted to be with her again, I should at least be friends.

So here is my question: what should I do? Be friends and hope for another go?
Be friends and be satisfied with that? Or just forget her and move on?

[garentee]

Love her unconditionally within the parameters that your current situation allows.If you enjoy being with her be with her.Enjoy every moment you have with her...even if it means you cant have her the way you want her. Maybe shes afraid of intimacy. She did say she still has feelings for you. You can get just as much out of platonic friendship as a romantic one. Moreover whats the point of wanting to be with someone who does not share the desire? Just a little food for thought .

[The Cloud]

Be satisfied with what you have and work toward what you want. Just be sure you really want it.

[Alexjstrandberg]

If I were you, I would be friends with her only if it was worth being friends- like if she is someone you would be friends with if you never had your relationship.

As for hoping for me, it's possible to become more but you need to understand a couple of things otherwise you will just end up in the same position as before (after the initial high dies you flat line)

There is so much to do to keep the relationship going but it's not what most people suggest to do. Things like take a vacation, join a gym, try new things in bed are great ideas but pretty much useless when the attraction in the relationship is dying.

For the lasting attraction the relationship needs to be growing and going in a direction. If you aren't both growing the relationship will stagnate really quickly. You need to be teaching her some of the things you are learning from this website.

Also, you might have done things to kill the attraction in the first place. Check out the website on my signature. I wrote five posts about the biggest relationship mistakes, might help

[Anand Dhillon]

In your situation, I would suggest being friends with her only if you actually want to be friends with her. Don't do it if you are hoping eventually she will change her mind and want to be in a relationship with you again.

In the mean time, move on. Take the lessons you learned from this relationship and use those lessons to make the next relationship you have even better.

Good luck