rude woman

[Fullcrum]

Awesome. More comes out about you. These posts really reflect a mature attitude.

If you want to learn how to cmmunicate the best, I'll just tell you that, more than anything else, second by second, being social is a self-fulfilling prophecy. What you expect to happen, tends to happen more than any other area of life. So if you are confident, and project your personality powerfully but you're not trying to compensate for a lack and just feel good, 99.99% of the time, it's going to come out right and the other person is going to react positively.

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It's the absolute best thing I recommend. I'd recommend this to my mom if I thought she needed it, it's that good. Check out the BP appreciation thread in the contribution forum.

[Lauxa]

Hi sonic,

When someone treats you poorly, it is an attack on your ego. However, your ego is not you, just a small part of you, really a tool for you to use as you will. If you can focus on the feelings generated by the attack on your ego and at the same time remember that it is not really you that is being attacked then you can transcend these feelings and they will not affect you. The reason that they affect you now is because you are so completely identified with your ego that you are mistaking it for you.

When you get to this point, you can even feel genuine happiness for the other person because they must feel so nice that now their ego has been bolstered. This happened for me recently and it was the strangest feeling, but so much more pleasant than feeling miserable just because my ego had been attacked.

[jokerman]

maybe you should murder her. not only would there be one less rude person for the rest of us to deal with, but it might discourage another person from being rude in the future.

[dali]

Ever thought it was you who creates your own reality? You are trying to teach yourself something here .That is why these situations just keep on happening over and over...Many giants in the spiritual world have told us to apply The Golden Rule. You are being given ample oppertunity to try it out by the sounds of things.Each time you do you can compare how it feels to each time you dont. Your emotional response will do the rest. namaste.

[Sentient]

Originally Posted by Fullcrum

Well, at least you're aware of that pattern in you.

Here's a kicker: A lot of these personality traits that are part of so-called "you" are actually really arbitrary. There may have been a tiny genetic predisposition towards certain tendencies, but the environment did the majority of shaping, especially when you were younger. So don't be attached to any of these personality traits - you are at an age where you can consciously decide what serves you and what does not, and discard and reassemble as you want.

It likely won't be easy making these changes, but at least make the decision. All that matters is that you are moving in the right direction. That's the quickest way to getting what you want. And I'm serious.

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So your friends don't want you to change.

And your family doesn't want you to change.

And your boss doesn't want you to change.

And it seems all the world is against you becoming who you want.



...are you going to let that stop you from becoming the person you want to be? Will you die making excuses and rationalizations about why your one and only life was wasted complaining about other people's limitations on you? Or will you step up and be the person you're meant to be?

I don't care if you're always scattered and inviting negativity. I do not care if your mind is weak right now.

Can you commit to yourself, right now, that you will no longer allow your environment to dictate who you are? That you will no longer stand for the old patterns that held you back for years? Can you commit to this now?

Only then will any of these other things we're saying make sense - from the victim frame, our advice is meaningless.

I mean, I really wanted to post but it would just be a "me too" after this. I couldn't agree more wholeheartedly. When there are a ton of people who seem to have their stuff together who are all advocating something, it's often worthwhile to just jump in and make a commitment to following their advice. You never know what their perspective allows them to know that your perspective doesn't.

For getting rid of victim mentality stuff I'll jump in and recommend Tools To Life Guided Self Help And Development Program the whole first month is geared towards showing you the responsibility and power you can have over your own life. I've finished the 90 day program and have to say, that anyone who does it..and *actually* does it will have ridiculous results in their life.

[brendannz]

Maybe with this woman, you try and avoid giving her time and energy, and think of this person as a woman who has problems in her life. So just feel sorry for her.