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[siddy]

Hi everyone basically I am hurting so much and do not know how to stop, my partner of 14 years left me 7 weeks ago since that time I have fell into this deep depression and nothing seems to help, I have been following loa for a while but I do not seem to be able to clear my mind of all the bad things that have happened can anyone help me or good me some much needed advice.

[Dan.Linehan]

I'd start by writing out everything that happened, for your own clarity.

Then decide where you want to go from there.

[PerDev]

Originally Posted by siddy

Hi everyone basically I am hurting so much and do not know how to stop, my partner of 14 years left me 7 weeks ago since that time I have fell into this deep depression and nothing seems to help, I have been following loa for a while but I do not seem to be able to clear my mind of all the bad things that have happened can anyone help me or good me some much needed advice.

Do not depress ..
Write down your life path on paper - Where you want to be after 2 years

[kboleski]

I am just going to cut to the chase. I know you are going to have to wade through a lot of emotions, but you will wind up to this concluson anyway - You HAVE to let it go, and find a way to pick up the pieces of your life. You are going to have to MAKE yourself get out of the house. Go to the gym, take up a hobby, reach out to your friends (not just to cry to.) Don't forget about it, just try not to dwell on it. Just begin adding some happiness back into your life. You can't control what he/she did, but you can try to figure out why he/she needed to leave the relationship, what part you contributed to it, admit any truths to yourself, start working on the aspects of those behaviors that you contributed to the relationship. You will feel better just knowing that you are improving yourself to be a better you. Besides you don't want to take any negative behaviors or baggage into the next relationship that you have. Get out, work out. Create some seratonin and release some stress. Did I say that you HAVE to get out of the house and do something?

[Alison Jenkins]

You are grieving for your relationship. Perhaps you didn't see it coming so that it has been a bolt out of the blue.

It is normal to feel loss, anger, disbelief etc. As others have suggested write about it, talk about it. If you are feeling very depressed then it would be a good idea to see your doctor to assess the level of your depression. They may then refer you for counselling that would help you to work through all your feelings and make sense of what happened.

Alison