Exploding fear.

[Jamie]

Within the context of dating, hot chicks, relationships, general interaction with people etc. I notice that I often stop myself from doing things, saying things, because of fear. Fear is a sever limiting factor in this area of my life.

So, I've gotten to thinking, that despite what results it may bring; it's going to be a very good thing for me to get in to the habit of 'exploding fear'. It boils down to this: As soon as something, anything, occurs to me, it doens't matter what it is, and I feel gripped by fear; I'm going to do that thing. The 'what it is' or the consequences (within reason) are totally irrelivent.

The key thing is to get in to the habit of doing the thing that you fear to do, and doing it instantly. That is of sole importance.

[garentee]

If you want a deep look into the best way to explode this fear.. Read Feel the fear and do it anyways by Susan Jeffers.... LIFE ALTERING!

[Alison Jenkins]

I love that book - it really is a fantastic book.

The other thing is FEAR = False Evidence Appearing Real

I've faced loads of fears in my recovery from binge eating disorder and now I just face the fear immediately and do it rather than sit with the fear for months. I used to have a real fear of dogs. In Jan I got a puppy and it has broken my fear and added so much to my life. People who knew me were totally shocked because I had 3 events that convinced me it would be ok and I went ahead and did it before I found all my old negative reasons as why I couldn't get a dog.

Alison

[Jamie]

Yep, I've also read Susans' book some time ago. I'm kinda running with the ideas and also adding my own take on things (more my own take on things in fact).

It's a very interesting idea; things are always coming to mind, groovy fun things to do, and it's always been me whos' stopped myself from doing whatever that idea was. It's something that extends past the context of dating, and even relating to other people, it's a life thing. Instantly, as soon as something comes up, and there is assosiated fear, do it. It's also kinda training yourself to run at fear, not from it; to tackle, to throw yourself in to experiences, rather than to shirk away from them.

I've had the most fab, amazing couple of days this weekend, following this principle, I can't tell you what a blast it's been!!

[MrNotebook]

Like they say...face your fears head on. I remember reading something about how to deal with fear and have been using it...

...whenever you feel like your emotions are convincing you to be afraid to do something, use your mind and consciously decide to take action immediately regardless how you "feel". The keyword here is "decide".

Fears are emotion-based, true results come from taking decisive action.