Doc Love - The System: The Dating Dictionary

[Angela]

By moving on I'm doing the next guy a favor since she will eventually improve that part of herself.

How vomitocious. He's doing the girl a big favor, too.

[realloc]

Thanks for adding that. I agree.

[Dan.Linehan]

I suppose there is a happy medium between 1) seeing someone only a certain number of times or hours per week and 2) ending up with a girlfriend who calls you every two hours.

What's wrong with option 3) Spend as much time together as both people agree to, keeping in mind current circumstances and goals?

[garentee]

The System seems like it would work if you were interested in playing the field and not actually opening up to a long term relationship. Even so... Seems to be something really dishonest about this. If you want to be with someone but the systems says you should only be with that person for a few hours per week then in the end you end up cheating yourself and the one you are supposed to be falling in love with... I guess in reality it just would not work for me and it may for other people... only I do not see how... ah the mysteries of the human being

[Apple Eye]

Originally Posted by realloc

Date your wife. Be a challenge. She initiates touching. Make a place away from her like the garage or live in separate houses. Say "I love you" a handful of times in your lifetime.

That part made me LOL for a good 5 minutes.

Originally Posted by realloc

49%: The point of no return. A guy can't raise her interest level above 50% again. One example of reaching this point is hearing "I need my space."

I don't know about this one. I think it's a bit off. For instance, I'm a little more flexible. When I reach 47.3646567% level of interest it's all over. Also, for me this isn't necessarily the point of no return. You may be able to raise my interest level back up to 50% with bountiful offerings of custard tarts, cake, and chocolate. Triple-cheese pizza also works wonders. 2.4 tarts, 1 .1 slice of cake, 3 gourmet chocolates, and 1 large pizza, to be exact.

Perhaps someone should sell a device that calculates your significant other's level of interest and then alerts you when the numbers start hovering near the danger zone.

Sorry I jest but I couldn't resist

[JimOfferman]

Originally Posted by Apple Eye

Perhaps someone should sell a device that calculates your significant other's level of interest and then alerts you when the numbers start hovering near the danger zone.

Lol. I can already see myself at work, blissfully unaware of danger until suddenly...

WHEEEEEOOOOEEEEEOOOOO

Oh no! It's my Love Master 3000 going off! Wife needs a fresh load of flowers - pronto! Risking my job and livelyhood, I run off to the florist to buy the biggest bouquet in the shop and arrive home just in time to keep her lovel interest leve from falling belong 50%!

Pfew!

I'll be out of a job tomorrow, but at least my trusty Love Master 3000 helped me keep my wife for a day longer.

When it comes to love. Don't. Take. Any. Chance! Buy the Love Master 3000 :P

[Angela]

Ha! The Love Master 3000 also senses if you are about to inadvertently use the words, "I love you" for the second time in a decade, and gives you an electrical shock. A milder shock occurs when you feel tempted to ask someone out for the second time in one week. Negative reinforcement!

[realloc]

Hi Jim. You mentioned flowers. In this model, if he senses her interest level (put ego aside, read her actions, listen to your gut) is low then he backs off (for example, not calling her). This is the time to get new home phone numbers just in case. If she calls then he knows he has a chance. If she doesn't call then she was 49% or lower (time apart does not raise her interest level) and he is out.

[JimOfferman]

Dude, I already told you that this model of yours doesn't hold up in my world very well... the women I know and like would not respond very well to it. I don't need it, or the Love Master 3000 or the flowers, for that matter, because you would need a crowbar to pry my girlfriend away from me - if you can at all.

My secret? It's called Just Being Who You Are - nothing beats that.

I admire your steadfastness, though. Keep it up!

[realloc]

I just listened to the radio show. He said it's ok if a man says I love you to his family, friends, or pets but not the woman he is romantically involved with because it's anti-challenge. The phrase is overused and a man should show his love for the woman through his actions.

[{aspiring_to_clarity}]

Originally Posted by realloc

I just listened to the radio show. He said it's ok if a man says I love you to his family, friends, or pets but not the woman he is romantically involved with because it's anti-challenge. The phrase is overused and a man should show his love for the woman through his actions.

Good luck with that.

[garentee]

Originally Posted by realloc

I just listened to the radio show. He said it's ok if a man says I love you to his family, friends, or pets but not the woman he is romantically involved with because it's anti-challenge. The phrase is overused and a man should show his love for the woman through his actions.

Sometimes (more often than not) its a good thing to tell your partner that you love them. If they find that it is anti challenge then I would challenge them to find the door. It is far more challenging to be emotionally available and be able to express your feelings to someone than not. That I know for sure.

[Angela]

I am a juicy, loving, sensual, open, intelligent, free, and joyful woman, and I am committed to having a loving long-term mutually beneficial relationship (LLTMBR) that overflows with juiciness, love, sensuality, openness, intelligence, freedom and joy. Fortunately, I've got a pretty good match in Danger Man.

There are probably people out there who are looking for a stingy, controlling, robotic, withholding, fearful, joyless, unconscious relationship, though. This System would be a perfect fit for those people, so lots of good luck to Doc Love!

I just don't think there are too many people here in these forums who are looking for a relationship of that (latter) type. You never know!

[Bradshaw]

Originally Posted by Angela

I am a juicy, loving, sensual, open, intelligent, free, and joyful woman, and I am committed to having a loving long-term mutually beneficial relationship (LLTMBR) that overflows with juiciness, love, sensuality, openness, intelligence, freedom and joy. Fortunately, I've got a pretty good match in Danger Man.

There are probably people out there who are looking for a stingy, controlling, robotic, withholding, fearful, joyless, unconscious relationship, though. This System would be a perfect fit for those people, so lots of good luck to Doc Love!

I just don't think there are too many people here in these forums who are looking for a relationship of that (latter) type. You never know!

Juicy? Juiciness? Hmm, what? What does that mean exactly, in your perspective?

Juice?

[songwriter]

I don't like it, it's all doing what she wants you to do, what will make her fall in love with you (or with "The System" ), but you're not gonna fall in love, I don't find the point.

[Angela]

Originally Posted by Bradshaw

Juicy? Juiciness? Hmm, what? What does that mean exactly, in your perspective?

Juice?

It's a great word, isn't it?

Juicy is: Generous, abundant, powerful, flowing, jump-starting, sexy, pleasure-producing energy.

"Switch on the juice!"
"If it's juicy, eat it over the sink!"
"Mom, can I have some more juice?"

[{aspiring_to_clarity}]

Originally Posted by songwriter

I don't like it, it's all doing what she wants you to do, what will make her fall in love with you (or with "The System" ), but you're not gonna fall in love, I don't find the point.

Although the point of the system seems to be to make her fall in love with you it certainly isn't about doing what she wants you to do. All the women here have said they wouldn't want a man to do these things to them.

It is about both people falling in love and working together to create a relationship that supports and nutures both partners.

[songwriter]

Originally Posted by {aspiring_to_clarity}

Although the point of the system seems to be to make her fall in love with you it certainly isn't about doing what she wants you to do. All the women here have said they wouldn't want a man to do these things to them.

It is about both people falling in love and working together to create a relationship that supports and nutures both partners.

I mean you're not being true to yourself, obviously!. You're doing things that she wants or that you think that are the ones what make her "fall in love" with.... "you". It may be useful for people that is not ambitious and is happy with those situations, kind of Angela has explained.

But the women here don't know the man it's pretending... if it was real SOME will be happy with it, but I don't think most, if not they wouldn't be here... that's silly dating or so.

Effective dating for silly people or so. That doesn't mean it's not useful. There is good food and bad food, good music and bad music... cause some stick to "bad things", it's "enough" for them. But most people here it's not like that you know, men or women.