She's cheating on me!

[Alexjstrandberg]

Drahzar

No advice is going to help you in this situation because you already know what needs to be done. No amount of your friends convincing you to dump the girl and get rid of the "friend" will have any affect on you. YOU need to learn the lesson for yourself.

It's not until it finally hits you like a ton of bricks that this isn't a great relationship to be in that you will move on. One day you will be sitting there and it will just come to you like an a-ha, crystallizing moment and you will go "ohhhhhh" for while. When that moment happens there will no longer be any second guessing yourself or your decision to leave her. Any doubt will be gone and you will never see or speak to her again.

The reason you the lesson of her not being right for you won't get through is an ego thing. Before you met her you were lonely, you felt like a loser and you felt like your life wasn't so great. When she came along for the first couple of weeks or a month those feelings got temporarily taken away. You felt "loved" for once and became addicted to it. Since this all happened when she came into your life you became addicted to her as well.

When the relationship went badly you still held onto what you felt those first couple of weeks because you FEARED going back to who you used to be (feeling like an unloved loser) You feared it so much that you stayed in a relationship that clearly isn't working hoping it would turn around but it didn't.

But nothing anyone here says will get through to you. You might agree but you will still stay with her till you are ready to learn that lesson.

Cheers!

[groundhog]

I cannot believe that there are lengthy responses to this. Like someone else said, I thought I had heard everything, but this takes the cake.

Dude, from the very FIRST time, I would have kicked that woman to the CURB. You are not her fiance, hear me? You are her puppy. Get a place of your own, and get the hell away from her. Let her whore herself to that guy or whatever she wants to do. If the reality is anything near the description of events that you have given, your marriage will be a terrible failure. Don't talk to that woman ever gain. Ever. Ever.

[Lazarus]

tell me if this was smart, but i skipped what everyone said when i quick-viewed the NUMBER 5?!?! i say leave =/ 5th chance with the word cheat doesn't sound like any commitment or devotion. not that i want to put you down and i'm sorry if i do, giving 2nd chance cause of cheating creates an eternity. it's a strong debate to take back after the 1st time, second time should have been out the door =/ seriously, if it happens more than once, it's going to continue on and on. and tell that other half that he or she can do that on her own time (i'm not serious about his or her own time) seriously that would make unwanted scenery, it felt right in the heat of the moment though lol

honestly, i hope you don't catch std's =/

love is shared, not given. if you do love her, and she loves you, she wouldn't cheat on you, it rots you when she does. you sure it's not lust? if i was cheated 5 times, i'd be looking even half across the world for a little shack =/ take back the ring (if married or fiance) and pawn it if you have to, jeez. you're devotion is as equivalent as his/her whoring. NO BOUNDS

[Lazarus]

Originally Posted by Rafael Perez

I will be blunt here, but this is my truth.

You like the drama, you are keeping yourself there and making exuses on why you can't leave. You chose to stay, you chose the relationship, you chose to be engaged to her, you chose to make yourself a victim.

This is your reality, this is the eggshell you have created around you and you think that this is the best you can do... It all stems from the fear that you are just not good enough...

This is my truth about what I have read, doesn't make it true, but consider thinking about what I have said and not automatically pulling a defensive card. I have no agenda against you, quite the opposite.

i hate the fact but i love the wording lol