Do pretty people have better lives than ugly people?

[lifetimelearner]

Originally Posted by JimOfferman

Short answer: NO!
Long answer: NO!

I don't think any of the top composers got to where they are because of their good looks. Being a pretty boy ain't gonna help if you can't make the music sound right!

so true !

[lifetimelearner]

I love this movie because it explores the classic -plain vs pretty sister relationship and the hurdles that they face in order to grow as individuals



In Her Shoes (2005) - Synopsis

[marinik]

First of all what is beautiful! It is so many different thing for so many different people! I love the abundance of beauty all around us. For some it is the legs... the breast, the nose the eyes!!! And for most is the feeling... what we awake in them. And they in us!

But did I get the job because of my looks? Yes, I suppose so, did I choose people based on their looks for the job, I am shamed to admit but yes now when I think of it very hard, and honest. But there are beauties that can not be defined by symmetry or eye color or the length of ones legs, or the with of the shoulders. It is the first impression and it is not just skin deep.

So many people are beautiful because of what they radiate. What came to mind is Ricky Martin. When he first hit the music world I remember his smile. It was gorgeous, a young boys smile, mesmerizing. I am not a fan just remember the smile. But today he is ridiculous to me. He is a wage copy of himself. Has he changed in any other way but psychological. NO! So there you have it, it is not skin deep! For me at least.

[nocturne]

Originally Posted by PianoManGidley

I wonder this, because I've never had that much confidence in myself because I was always picked on growing up, and I feel that part of that was because I'm not very attractive physically. I can't help but feel that people who are more attractive physically end up getting more people supporting them, giving them confidence, which they end up harnessing themselves, which helps them get ahead in life. I can't seem to get much of anywhere because I don't have self-confidence because hardly anyone took the time to make me feel like I have any self-worth. So even though I write music, I'm afraid of putting it out there because I feel like I'd be inconveniencing people for them to listen to it and evaluate it, and that they're probably not going to like it anyway. This leads to me not even writing that much music in the first place, so I end up not being very prolific, and for that reason, I feel even WORSE about myself because all the successful composers are, like, constantly writing. So...what are your thoughts?

you know, no one pointed out you are not asking an effective question.
not only does the answer to your question isn't particularly helpful, but you are still presuming you're not attractive physically.
and you are still presuming that looking good is a prerequisitive to success.
you're basically settnig the criteria up so that you can't succeed.

in order to succeed, you only need to be the best version of yourself, not brad pitt.

even if good lookers had on average have better lives, that doesn't include the ones that have horrible lives, that doesn't mean they dont' have pain in their lives, and it doesn't discount the ok or bad lookers that lead exceptional lives.

a better question would be how to be attractive physically, and how to have high self confidence. now as a composer you are not required to be very prolific, some composeres don't write a lot of music but are successful.

not being prolific at a certain point in your life means that you are human, its not something to feel bad about.

you have to progressively develop confidence and discipline

[Plato]

Originally Posted by Angela

Periodically I close my eyes and go back to a specific time when I was feeling very, very confident -- I have a few great ones -- and really feel it, vividly, powerfully, so that I can totally feel confidence in every part of my body. I've got an anchor that I add to (pinching my right ear lobe; don't tell anyone! ) so just firing off the anchor works. But I still love to go to my "special" moments and re-experience them, just because it's fun.

I also sometimes use the "ring of fire" anchor -- a ring that lives (invisibly) on my finger, and can be snapped down onto the floor. Just stepping into the ring of fire blasts confidence, among other enjoyable presentation states, right up through me.

Thanks Angela. I have so many more questions to ask, like how often you do each of these, the time of day, what prompts you to do it, etc, but I will save them for now, unless you feel particularly inclined to have your brain picked.