How do you react to threats and cockiness?

[sonicpunk32]

What I meant was moving from one created reality that you have created for so many years, into a new reality that you have worked to create. Like moving into a new life, actually it *is* moving into a new life, cause I have new opportunities awaiting me like you'd never imagine. A complete shift of energy awaits me.

[Angela]

Really? I am so looking forward to hearing what comes up for you!!

[sonicpunk32]

Yes, really! One thing that's happening now is what I just posted in another thread!

[nightdiamond]

Hi again, yourself

If I may .......

There are martial arts techniques and styles that are designed to be gentle...such as Tai Chi- the main purpose would be to build confidence-which martial arts will definetely teach you, and good health as well.. you also have the option of asking a martial arts instructor which martial art would be appropriate for you. The real purpose is not to fight, but to build confidence...

...it will help you create a state of control which is based on self confidence first and the extra knowledge that you will know how to defend yourself...

For the time being, slow down, rest, take a step back, build and gather your forces together.... if you like, practice confident body language... learn how to diffuse the situation, or turn it around on them.... if your girlfriend understands the problem, have a signal pre-arranged for her to leave and come with you.... think and think and think about it, remember what you come up with, you'll come up with answers...

When you return, you'll feel different, and be different and will have learned a lot more than the average guy out on his date....

Good luck yourself...

[YourSelf]

Sorry, I needed some time to order my thoughts before replying again since I was a bit confused. Anyway, here I am again.

@Angela
I understood what you mean now. However, I ask, what you are saying is different from what e.g. Brutha is suggesting, right?
Brutha gave some insight on how to respond in that specific situation, whereas you are suggesting to avoid even getting into that situation, right?

"But yes, accepting that you are constantly creating your reality is a great step in assuming and expanding your personal power."
So, by "your reality", you mean your lifestyle, your living environment, etc. From what you enumerated thereafter it seemed to me like that:

1) You suggest to move elsewhere, where I will be more accepted.
2) You suggest to change the places I go to, where I won't be mistreated.
3) You suggest to interact with women who will respect me ex ante.
4) I think I didn't understand this one in the context of the message ;D

I do create a new reality for myself, but if I simply avoid those situations, am I not ignoring other people's realities?

This reminds me of something we studied in philosophy:
If a tree falls to the ground, does it make any sound? Did it make any sound even if you were 1000 miles away from the place the tree fell?

From what you say, it seems to me that we shouldn't be worried about other realities around us but only about our own.
(You would have probably told that the tree didn't make any sound since you weren't there to hear it, right? )

Is that what you were trying to say?

What I am asking is...
1) How can I be accepted and reduce danger in that 60% place where there is danger?
2) How can I behave in a way to be treated properly, even in bars or nightclubs where I would have been mistreated otherwise?
3) How can I behave in a way that a woman who would normally prefer a reptilian would choose me?

I think Brutha was more close to answering those questions, but I didn't understand whether you completely reject such questions, and simply try to avoid places and people where/from whom you can't get what you want?

[Brutha]

Brutha gave some insight on how to respond in that specific situation, whereas you are suggesting to avoid even getting into that situation, right?

Avoiding to come into a situation like this is certainly also useful.
Angela was more speaking in an analytic sense.
You make choices and the consequences of going to the places you choose are something that you should think about.
You are no victim but those consequences are a result of your decisions.
Even without moving completly to the 40% world seeing that you have that choice can give you perspective.

Angela point is that the existence of those choices create responsibility.
I on the other hand think that responsibilty comes from the creative process of "taking responsibilty".
But we both think that responsibilty is important.

Once you have made that choice to go to those places for whatever reasons you can make the best out of the situation.

I do create a new reality for myself, but if I simply avoid those situations, am I not ignoring other people's realities?

If nobody goes to those bad nightclubs, they will close.

In addition there is a difference between ignoring something and accepting that it isn't the right thing for you and withdrawing. If you ignore something there is a conflict between yourself and the thing you are ignoring.

You have the choice between going to a bar and going to the history museum.
Going to a bar has advantages and disadvantages.
Going to the history museum has advantages and disadvantages.

When you choose one of those activities both advantages and disadvantages are a result of your actions.

nightdiamond's point of confident bodylanguage may also be valuable. Bully rather pick on people who seem weeker and when your bodylanguage will project confidence you won't get picked on as much.

[Perfect Sunday]

Hi, just wanted to add my 0.02

Originally Posted by YourSelf

I spend/spent 60% of my social time in environments like that and 40% in what you would call more civilized. Everyone I know agrees that in the former case (land of the lizards), all women are like that - even those who say they aren't.

I think you have been wasting your time then.
If you spend over half of your time in "environments like that", then why the heck haven't you developed more social savvyness then??

I don't think that "all women are like that".

Originally Posted by YourSelf

It isn't Intention Manifestation - some women themselves say it and are quite proud of it! They don't want to hang around with disabled loosers who aren't able to fight.
The stronger guys get the hotter chicks.

John F. Kennedy had crippling back-pain... and he never publicly complained.
Roosevelt was mostly bound to a wheelchair... and he served almost 4 terms as President.
Napoleon was a short guy... and he conquered most of the world.

Need more?

Women don't care if you're disabled or not... they want to know you can help them survive.

Originally Posted by YourSelf

The stronger guys get the hotter chicks.

Not true at all.

Go to the gym and watch all the Mr. Universes... see how they oogle the hot girls. How they get uncomfortable around them.
See how few (if any) of them have girlfriends (that aren't nutjobs - unless he's a nutjob).

IMO, you should be smarter on your social outings.
Be smarter than them... cooler than them.
Out-wit them... if you wish.
Or you can just avoid them.

[Fullcrum]

The stronger guys do NOT get the hotter chicks.