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12-02-2006, 01:37 AM
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Why is it so hard to keep on the same frequency with someone! I've noticed this a lot in so many relationships & friendships, as well as my own. People start a relationship or friendship because their both connecting in that moment of time, their both riding on the same wavelength but then one happens to fall off the frequency they both were on, they try to get back on the same frequency, they go their seperate ways, or it all goes down hill from there. What causes them to fall off the frequency? Doubts, worries, regrets, judgements, assumptions, jealousness, selfishness, change of thoughts, etc... Humans emotions & thoughts are like the weather. Constantly shifting & changing. I question if the only reason why people stay together for a long period of time is because they developed a need for each other, like a drug dealer & addict relationship, that they confuse as being love. It seems to be the case in many relationships that I know. Unconditonal love doesn't seem to exisit in 95% of the relationships I've seen. The most happiest relationships I've seen are from those people on a high vibration who have a "opened relationship". After all isn't real love learning to let go? and unconditonally loving the other person no matter what they do? I'm confusing myself. Bleh. Last edited by RallyMcnally; 12-02-2006 at 02:05 AM. |
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12-02-2006, 06:06 AM
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I wrote a definition of love that might help. I believe that love between two people stays when both are interested each other, and that this interest ultimately leads to them identifying their partner with themselves. When this stops happening, they will automatically grow apart.
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12-02-2006, 06:29 AM
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When a couple breaks the chain of communication, they are disconnecting instead of constantly reconnecting with each other. Keeping your partner updated on your life has got much more benefits than just knowing. It also means relating and connecting. Then your partner will find it much easier to keep up with you so that you remain on the same freuqency. Quote:
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12-02-2006, 11:57 AM
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Or it might be the first "frequency" wasn't their "real" one.... How many of us change who we are when meeting someone just like we clean up the house for a visitor? It's just as valid to ask, "why does my house get messy?" Stephen Power-Book Library: Free personal development, success, inspiration and motivational classics |
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12-04-2006, 01:15 PM
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12-04-2006, 04:49 PM
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Maybe I'm using the word 'frequency' differently, but I think relationships drift apart when people start to diverge in terms of values, goal, place in life, etc. The relationship was a good fit for one set of circumstances, but not for another.
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