this is what happens when you don't listen.

[Faye]

i'm sorry that i didn't respond directly to several of the last few posts -- its been an emotionally draining time; rest assured that i read them all and that they mean very much to me and have helped me along the way.

i just wanted to update and say that i'm not with him any longer. the details are too exhausting and perhaps they will come later if needed.

i guess it's time to begin a new journey. i hope the steps won't be this heavy the whole way. thank you for your kindness toward me.

~faye

[garentee]

This is one of the most inspirational threads I have read for a while. I am impressed with your tenacity in this situation. What you are doing is incredibly hard and life altering and it is incredible just reading through these posts and seeing the growth. I am not going to add anything to the advice that these folks have given you. It is all really spot on advice. Just wanted to tell you how much I admire the courage that you have and your willingness to change. G

[{aspiring_to_clarity}]

Good luck with everything Faye and lots of big hugs. I can imagine how difficult this must be, but I hope this ending is the beginning of bigger and better things for you.

Keep us posted and join in around the boards. There's lots of information and support to help you in this time of transition.

[JimOfferman]

Kudos to you Faye! Lots of luck with your new journey

hug,
Jim.

[kboleski]

I am also very proud of your growth and desire to do the right thing for the right reasons. I have wondered about you and how you were doing. I hope to hear how you are and what your next step is, so please keep us updated. Good luck in your journey.
KB

[uberinquisitive]

When you look back on this incident in the future - you will be proud of yourself. Good for you.

[robc]

Originally Posted by Faye

i'm sorry that i didn't respond directly to several of the last few posts -- its been an emotionally draining time; rest assured that i read them all and that they mean very much to me and have helped me along the way.

i just wanted to update and say that i'm not with him any longer. the details are too exhausting and perhaps they will come later if needed.

i guess it's time to begin a new journey. i hope the steps won't be this heavy the whole way. thank you for your kindness toward me.

~faye

Change isn't always easy but it can be very rewarding.
I believe you very much when you say it's been an emotionally draining time, probably the most in your life I would suspect. You sound exhausted, make sure you take care of yourself.

Right now it would be a good thing for you to feel the security of your family & friends around you. Sometimes a warm hug from a good friend and just to be held for a while can help alot, I'm sure everyone in this forum who has been following your story offers you a big warm hug and a shoulder to lean on.

You are taking steps in the right direction though, it's new and that can be scary but it's only because it's new and you don't know what to expect. Like I said, lean on your friends & family when you need to, talk to them, if you can't talk to them, see if you can talk to a counsellor who can maybe you give you some positive perspectives to look at this situation with.

These steps may be "heavy" as you put it but your feet are moving forward which means to me that you're strong enough to keep moving on. Like I said in a previous post, the ability to have a better life was always in you, you just had to realize it.

We're all happy for you and how your life now is going to take on a more positive nature and how bigger & better things are going to be coming your way.

Good Luck and Hang in there Faye, you can do it!!!