anology on development of people in relationships.

[tommyboy567]

From what i have experience in life in the relationships norm is a unique and complicated feeling. recently "4 month ago" my ex girlfriend broke up with me. The reason is that she wasn't ready for a relationship and all of that good stuff of insecurity. I though that she really felt that way so i respected her and let her go. A month or so after, i found out that she is in a relationship and just recently found out that she "love" this guy. I'm not a stalker or anything but i have the tendency to have the urge to see how the Exs are doing rather if its on myspace or facebook. The reason is that some where in me i can't let go. It have been 4 month and i should have moved on but there is something about it that cause me to feel discontent with myself.
She was the first person i ever cared about, even tho i have alot of pevious gfs that was only involved with sex, drugs, and alcohol. This girl actually made me become a caring guy rather then a As*hole that i used to be. After the break up i started not to care about anything anymore. sometime when life F**K you over you become more in-depth with yourself on who you are. And when I look around it seems more obvious that when people that were hurt in previous relationships often act more self-center towards other as they used to or what i like to say ********** They stop caring for others because they are afraid of getting hurt again. once a person betread the relationship, the the person that got betread developed a inner personal feelings for others and start developing a shield within the inner personal feelings. I found it ironic how a single relationship can turn you into a different person with a different thoughts of oneself and others.
Do you believe or disagree with this statement?

[skywalker160]

Hi
I look up ex girlfriends on their myspace and facebook. It's fun, so don't think you're a stalker. If they were worried they'd set it to private.
People getting hurt in relationships is one of the unfortunate outcomes of some relationships. How people deal with it is their problem.
You can't say oh it's ok for him to be horrible because his chick broke his heart. People like that need to move on and be responsible for how they act - girlfriend or not.
If you keep getting betrayed maybe you need to find a nice girl to give your heart to.

Hope this helps!

Jonathan