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Old 04-07-2008, 02:06 PM
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I am here to ask all of my forum friends to pray, send good intentions, keep in your thoughts -- whatever your preferred method -- my friend.

He has been missing since Saturday. No one can get ahold of him. He did not go into work this morning and he didn't call in. Also a short time back he tried to OD on pills. We fear he may have taken his own life.

If he has left us the family will need all your thoughts.

Strangely he was in my dream last night before I knew he was missing. We were going somewhere and he asked me if we could take separate cars. I said of course. Then he said that he was glad because Sarah always gets mad when he wants to do that. The person who he referred to as Sarah in the dream is not named Sarah. Anyway, the dream may not mean anything at all, but it feels like it's taken on a meaning now.

Thanks for reading and for any good wishes, thoughts, prayers, etc you can send his way.
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My thoughts are with you and him and his family.

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I certainly hope your friend turns up safe and sound. My prayers are with him.
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Thanks, Matt.
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Do you Facebook? I've seen that used as a medium to find lost people. If you need to chat or anything or get stuff off your chest privately, please let me know. This is horribly stressful when people go missing.

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I hope your friend returns safely home and right soon. Sending positive, loving thoughts and prayers to him and to you for your strength as well.
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Isn't it possible that your friend doesn't want to be found right now? There are so many possibilities of what might be going on with him, including the possibility that he's doing exactly the right thing for himself. Please don't suffer by worrying and making yourself feel bad -- that won't help him be safe, supported or even found.

I am sending him lots of safe, supporting green energy, wherever he is. I'm also sending it to you during this time when trust is such an important thing.
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Thanks everyone.

Yes, Angela. I've thought that maybe he just needs some time to himself at the moment. It's hard to know what to do in this situation. Yes, I want to give him room if he needs it. I also want to know if he's alive or needs help. My dream last night left me at peace actually. I remember in the dream thinking everything was fine somehow. Before I even knew it might not be fine.

I feel badly that I didn't call him when he took the pills. I just didn't know what to say.

I still don't know what I could do to help him if he even wants help.
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I want to thank everyone for their thoughts and prayers. My friend has been found, but unfortunately he has taken his life. I don't really know what else to add, but I do appreciate continued thoughts and prayers for the family and friends who are very sad now. He was 24. A great friend, brother, cousin, son, nephew...Always there to give you a reason to smile.

I am still in a state of shock, even though we had prepared ourselves for this I actually have trouble believing he is gone.
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I want to thank everyone for their thoughts and prayers. My friend has been found, but unfortunately he has taken his life. I don't really know what else to add, but I do appreciate continued thoughts and prayers for the family and friends who are very sad now. He was 24. A great friend, brother, cousin, son, nephew...Always there to give you a reason to smile.

I am still in a state of shock, even though we had prepared ourselves for this I actually have trouble believing he is gone.
I am sending ho'oponopono to everybody involved, and thinking of you all too.

If there's anything I can do, let me know.

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Oh, aspiring, I'm so sorry. Please know that you are very much in my thoughts, and I'm here if you need to talk, either publically or privately or both. Please send my love to the family and friends.

I don't know what happens in the afterlife, but my very best wishes are with your friend for peace. Peace for you, too.

Lots and lots of love,
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Aspiring,

I am sorry and send my condolences to you and his family.

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I'm sorry for your loss Aspiring. I hope your friend has found peace.
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That's too sad.
Remember to breathe.
Take care.
Remember him well.
Peace...
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Thank you so much everyone. It's still hard to accept the reality of the situation. We are happy that at least he is at peace now and no longer in pain.
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I am so sorry Aspiring to hear about your dear friend. My deepest sympathies to you and your friend's family.((((HUGS))))
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Thanks, ladybug. I appreciate it!
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Just remember that he lives on in everybody whose lives he touched. Everything he was still is, just in a different place.
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Thanks, The Cloud. That has made it a little easier now that the shock of it all is wearing off.
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Default I'm very sorry for your loss...

Losing a friend is always tragic, I hope you find some solace in the support from your family & friends during this time.
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