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Old 03-27-2008, 12:13 AM
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Alright, Here's some background.

I'm a sixteen year old male.
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It seems recently all of my friends are dropping their virginities left and right, but I'm still sitting here without much "action".

Don't get me wrong, I get plenty of attention from girls- most people even doubt the fact I still have my virginity, let alone my first kiss.

I really don't know how this didn't happen, I mean i've been in situations where a kiss would be easy to get.

Like last summer, I was on a rooftop with a girl watching a sunset, and her face was particularly a centimeter away from my face, but I didn't do anything ( I was kicking my own ass after this mind you)

I have plenty of female attention, ( i'm putting NO ego behind this), but I just can't picture myself with any of them, because I have always thought of a kiss as something close to spiritual.

so what now, am I just immature or a loser?
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Old 03-27-2008, 12:22 AM
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Why didn't you kiss her?
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Old 03-27-2008, 12:41 AM
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but I just can't picture myself with any of them, because I have always thought of a kiss as something close to spiritual.

so what now, am I just immature or a loser?
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Dude... you need to get laid !

Just kidding, take your time... it's not a big deal. What I will say is that the bigger deal you think sex is, the more you need it just so that you can realise it's not a big deal. Ask yourself if you think a kiss is spiritual because you've made women Goddesses in your mind or because of the love between two people. I found that I was the former. Only after putting it about quite a bit I realised
a- girls are only human - amazing I know!
b- without a meaningful connection, sex is... meaningless

but it was worth the time spent with girls I didn't like beyond their charms to find that out. And the experience gained... I don't want to spoil the surprise but sex isn't all that great until you're good at it.
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Old 03-27-2008, 12:48 AM
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Yeah, take your time. If you feel it's spiritual and has to do with connectedness, wait for it. It's so much better if you do.

I lost my virginity to a girl I was deeply emotionally involved with. Nothing physical I've experienced tops sex when there's love involved.
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If you want practical advice, just keep touching them. Just touch. Touch is damn important. So touch people when you talk. Then just keep escalating naturally. Don't be a dick about it, just be cool and playful. Hope this helps

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so what now, am I just immature or a loser?
hell no, pretty much nobody really understands women and is completely fearless. Every guy has stories of how shockingly dumb they've acted around girls. Hell, the first time I kissed a girl it was kind of similar, I spent so much time being to chicken to kiss her when it was blatently obvious what was going on it was just rediulous

(her:"want to come back to my place for coffee?" me:"its 3am, why would I want coffee at this time of..........oooooooh.")


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Like last summer, I was on a rooftop with a girl watching a sunset, and her face was particularly a centimeter away from my face, but I didn't do anything
the correct procedure at this point is to mentally yell "kamikazi!" and go for it. Accept that you're quite possibly making a mistake and dive in anyway! Seriously, the worst that happens if you're misreading things is you end up with an awkward conversation and then back to normal in a minute.

Its just one of those things where you have to look at your fears, man up and wade in knowing that at the end of the day you'll still be alive...it'll make you a stronger person in the end.

If you've got lots of girls around then you've already got half the battle done. All you need to do now is get them thinking of you as a potential boyfriend/fling/whatever too.

Its pretty much as simple as Fullcrum said. Be up close and personal, flirt, make wild accusations with a cheeky grin on your face about them staring at your bum and how you won't stand for them treating you like a sex object.
(err...balance all that with not being too creepy of course, learn to read how she reacts and all that)
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Haha, no, you just have values for what you want in a partner, and aren't willing to sacrifice them just to reach some standard. Don't worry about it, all those people dropping their virginity will probably end up feeling regret later because they gave it up for somebody that they didn't really end up caring about. Just wait until you know it is time, and then things will take care of themselves. Until you are certain, you aren't ready. But once you're dead certain, then nothing else matters.

How will you know when you are certain? When you know I know it's a bit hard to swallow, but just trust me, you will have that time when you have no doubts and will feel no regrets.
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Old 04-10-2008, 07:53 AM
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Dude.

Stop caring what people think.

You'll enjoy your love life a lot more when you do what you want to do, not because you are being forced into it to satisfy some definition of loser.

Enjoy your youth. Women are lovely and understanding about this kind of thing, at least, the ones you want to lose it to.

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I can relate a lot to what you're going through. I'm 25 now and even still I get really nervous in a situation where I want to kiss a girl, but I do it anyway. I can tell you that its been the right choice every time because if a girl didn't want you to kiss her, she wouldnt put herself in those situations. Even if it ends up awkward, so what. If you're surrounding yourself with nice girls they might at least feel flattered. Hang in there, my first kiss wasn't til I was about 17 and the girl practically did all the work for me, but don't wait around for that. Next time don't hesitate and do it anyway.
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Old 04-10-2008, 09:50 PM
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Also, if you consider a kiss spiritual, then every human interaction is spiritual. A kiss would be just another way of connecting with another person, the same as talking or hugging. I admire that you want it to be meaningful, but I think you're creating some unneccecary anxiety over it.
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