Friendships

[Brella]

Hi Everyone,

Im new to this site and found it just when I need it!Hopefully this post wont be too long but I just need to get it off my chest and out of my head.

So this is about friendship.Im 24 and am currently travelling and have been travelling for around 2 - 3 years.Along the way I have met alot of friends and people that I would always love to stay in contact with but they are all scattered over the world so I probably wont see them as much as I would want.

Anyway I met this one girl on my travels (sam) and we decided to go to Asia and Australia together.We spent one month in Thailand and then one month in Australia together and then went our seperate ways.Then I met another girl (Julia) and we quickly became best friends and did EVERYTHING together.We moved in together and had the most amazing time partying constantly. I then had to go and work on a farm for three months to extend my visa and met up again with the Sam again who I hadnt seen for 7 months.Anyway things where great...we did EVERYTHING together again and had the best time until one day we just had this massive argument about nothing really.
The whole time I was away with Sam, Julia kept calling me and trying to convince me to come back and live with her and settle down in the city, and saying we would have the best time again and trying to convince me not to travel anymore and live in the city with her.So with that in the back of my head I decided to get the first flight to go and live with Julia again.

When I met her at the airport it was really exciting but I soon began to feel suffocated.Almost to the point where I was acting really weird towards her.She wanted to spend EVERY moment with me and I felt a pressure to be her BEST friend again.She told all her new friends about me and how we where the best of friends when I was living with her,and she told me she regards me as one of her bestest friends ever even though I only met her last year and new her for 7 months.I felt kind of the same but Im really more independent and like to have space.
Its almost got to the point where I cant stand being around her anymore.....Its the weirdest thing.I think our interests have changed,where all she wants to do is party and i ant to travel and do other stuff.Also having an argument with Sam made me feel all weird when I finally got back living with Julia so I wasnt my happiest.therefore not making me a very fun person to be around.
ANyway things have got so strange between us now that Im leaving next week to go and work on a boat!

Anyway Im now starting to think there is something wrong with me for starting off with two very good friends and now having NONE!

(I did make it up with Sam but we wont carry on travelling together ;(

Ok better go back to work.....as I said this is probably very boring for everyone but it feels good to have let it out....cant stop thinking about it.Its almost like Ive broken up with two boyfriends!

Hope everyone is well!

[Pegasus]

Welcome to the forums, Brella!

While travelling, people hang around with others whom they normally wouldn't under normal circumstances. No one says that your friendships have to be permanent! Have fun, learn as much as you can, part on good terms, and move on to the next adventure!

[Brella]

Thanks for that!

Thats actually the sad part of travelling....that you meet people that are good for you at that particular time but can never really establish a real long lasting friendship as we just wont be in the same pace at the same time ever again.

My older brother warned me about this whilst he travelled.At the time you think you'll be best friends forever until you have to move on....again.

I just need to remember I have my friends that will always be there back at home when I eventually return and stop obsessing over this now!

Its just that Ive never had this experience before and am starting to wonder if its a flaw in my personality.To suddenly break friendships with two people must mean theres something wrong with me???!

Or Ive just changed.....Im a bit of a worrier if you havent noticed!

Im so glad Ive found this site,Ive been reading through the threads and they have really helped me.