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byyp 02-27-2008 10:08 AM

Why some girls are so high headed?
 
Why some girls think that they are the best, even when they do not possess any extra qualities. I have a few friends of mine who are like that. Take an example, one girl who is hardly 4 feet few inches and that too with average features always yells, she is gorgeous..lol..me and my other pals, end up laughing when we listen to her. I have many good looking friends..but they never boast about themselves. Just wanted to know, why some people behave like that? Is it like acting kiddish even at the age of 25 or is it some psychological problem..I am not worried about her..but just want to know some logical reason behind this "quite often seen thing"..;) :eek:

Fullcrum 02-27-2008 10:16 AM

They want your attention. :)

Dave Kaminski 02-27-2008 10:46 AM

Something I've found to be a large mistake in my life is trying to give logical reason to emotional happenings. It's very hard to logically explain something that isn't logically motivated.

What are the best kinds of oranges to make apple juice out of, you know?

You don't have to understand through logic. Maybe put yourself in their shoes and you'll see that Fullcrum is pretty close to spot on. :)

Keith 02-27-2008 07:47 PM

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Originally Posted by byyp (Post 162012)
Is it like acting kiddish even at the age of 25

And at what age is your licence to act "kiddish" revoked, pray tell?

Angela 02-27-2008 07:53 PM

If she's that short, maybe she feels like she needs to yell to be heard! Take another look at her -- she IS gorgeous, and she has plenty of extras. You guys are going to feel like fools when you finally get around to realizing it.

Jamie 02-27-2008 08:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Keith (Post 162223)
And at what age is your licence to act "kiddish" revoked, pray tell?

OMG! ... it gets revoked? Don't tell me that!!!

One of my bestest little buddies is the 2 year old little boy who lives next door ... he is sooo cool, and has these fantastic trainers (shoes) that flash (little coloured lights in the heels), I was trying to convince him that they'd fit quite well on my feet ... he wasn't having it! We play superman too, where he can jump up and fly around the room at an altitude of, about 7 feet ... for as long as it takes my arms to get tired. Young people are ace, but old people can be 'young' too.

Jamie. :)

JimOfferman 02-27-2008 09:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Jamie (Post 162236)
but old people can be 'young' too.

Uhuh. Like my grandma skipping with a jump rope at age 81 and beating my sister at it!

(Such a shame she fell and broke her hip a couple of years later and never fully recovered... although her spirit remains young as always)

NotesMaeve 02-27-2008 10:26 PM

Being one of those high-headed girls, it's mostly because I see who I surround myself with that I feel awesome.

Have fun. You only spin around the world in this world once. So she's having fun. Awesome for her. :)

Spartan 02-27-2008 10:48 PM

You know, I've seen those kind of girls at college - the one's who act like they've overosed on sugar and are constantly hyper!

It's good for them that they're so happy, however I honestly find their behaviour annoying - like a little kid who won't stop demanding attention.

Dave Kaminski 02-28-2008 12:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Spartan (Post 162295)
You know, I've seen those kind of girls at college - the one's who act like they've overosed on sugar and are constantly hyper!

It's good for them that they're so happy, however I honestly find their behaviour annoying - like a little kid who won't stop demanding attention.

I find that people find me annoying when I'm effusively friendly; I'm merely trying to spread the joy I find in the situation I'm in.

jamestl2 03-17-2008 06:11 PM

She's just trying to manipulate you, it's preprogrammed into female brain chemistry.

Shorebird 03-18-2008 04:37 AM

Actually such people know the reality.

This girl knows that she is short-heighted and she has accepted that. The reason she is so high headed is that she is using other 'Good' traits of her at the very best. And this is the right thing to do. To me she appears to be very positive.

SaberToothDream 04-25-2008 10:56 PM

guys do this too though. there are those guys that seem to be overly confident and cocky for no good reason. this doesn't really answer why people do it, but i just don't think people who think they're hot **** is necessarily gender specific.

MidasGirl 04-26-2008 03:00 AM

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Originally Posted by byyp (Post 162012)
Why some girls think that they are the best, even when they do not possess any extra qualities. I have a few friends of mine who are like that. Take an example, one girl who is hardly 4 feet few inches and that too with average features always yells, she is gorgeous..lol..me and my other pals, end up laughing when we listen to her. I have many good looking friends..but they never boast about themselves. Just wanted to know, why some people behave like that? Is it like acting kiddish even at the age of 25 or is it some psychological problem..I am not worried about her..but just want to know some logical reason behind this "quite often seen thing"..;) :eek:

Well, maybe she honestly believes she is gorgeous.........isn't it really just a matter of perception? I think she has every right to feel she is gorgeous, and you have every right to feel she isn't, and even tell her so if you feel she is full of b/s. But this whole idea that "gorgeous" is a universally uniform concept is b/s in itself!

Keith 04-26-2008 04:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Dave Kaminski (Post 162438)
I find that people find me annoying when I'm effusively friendly; I'm merely trying to spread the joy I find in the situation I'm in.

Yup. It's a bit like it says in "Ask and it is Given" - you can't just leap from one end of the emotional spectrum to the other. If you're in quite a good mood and you meet someone effusively joyful, they lift you up. But if you're grumpy and you meet someone who's effusively joyful, it's just annoying - you can't make that transition in one leap.

I think I saw a post on these forums once that someone had created a mood transition mix-tape - starting from woeful music and transitioning song by song to joyous music.

BTW, why on earth is this post in the "Fun & Recreation" forum?

Adrienne 05-05-2008 09:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Keith (Post 181081)
BTW, why on earth is this post in the "Fun & Recreation" forum?

Good point Keith.. I moved it to Relationships.

Adrienne :)

Brutha 05-05-2008 10:14 PM

I should being not tall or being tall have any effect on how you interact with other people?

Cran 05-05-2008 11:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Brutha (Post 184126)
I should being not tall or being tall have any effect on how you interact with other people?

Durin my school times, I went out with a boy who was nearly 2m tall, and I make it to 1,64... can you imagine how some interactions were affected by our size? :D

SmartAlx 05-06-2008 05:46 AM

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Originally Posted by byyp (Post 162012)
Take an example, one girl who is hardly 4 feet few inches and that too with average features always yells, she is gorgeous..lol..me and my other pals, end up laughing when we listen to her.

She's insecure. She's seeking approval. She is daring someone to contradict her and if no one does then she equates that to agreeing with her.

One day someone will contradict her. That will either devastate her, or she will lie to herself and say "everybody tells me that I'm gorgeous" even if no one ever did in fact tell her that. To her everybody told her that she's gorgeous when they didn't contradict her.

Brutha 05-07-2008 03:14 PM

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Durin my school times, I went out with a boy who was nearly 2m tall, and I make it to 1,64... can you imagine how some interactions were affected by our size?
It obviously has some effects but I don't see why you should feel any less self secure or confident because of it.


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