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02-20-2008, 06:20 PM
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 Interesting conversation-starting questions? Hello. I've noticed that when I go out socializing, I simply run out of things to say or ask when talking to people. I can't stand it! Mostly I'm sick of the boring "so, what do you do/where do you live?" type of questions. What are some interesting/thought-provoking/unique questions you can think of to spark conversation?      |
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02-20-2008, 07:54 PM
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| "Do you think we are monkeys that were once genetically modified by some aliens?" or something like "Do you believe in reincarnation?" "Do you think plants have souls too?" "why is the sky blue?" "Does water have a memory and how does it work?" Hmm... I really wonder about those things myself.
__________________ Magical Chest - I'm Generating Hardcore Harmony Last edited by Rose of Cairo : 02-20-2008 at 07:58 PM. |
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02-20-2008, 08:23 PM
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| If you go go anywhere for a fantasy 1 week vacation, where would you do and why? What about if you had 1 month? If you could have one type of pet, but you'd have 500 of them, what animal would you choose and why? Would you be willing to go on a one-way trip to Mars to live there for the rest of your life along a small colony of humans? If you could meet anyone famous now, that you haven't yet met, and spend a one hour dinner with them, whom would it be and why?
__________________ “You must do what you fear" Last edited by seeker5 : 02-20-2008 at 08:38 PM. |
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02-20-2008, 09:47 PM
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 Would a follow-up to this question be something like, "In what type of institution do you prefer to live out your life?" j/k!  @Fullcrum - I'm currently trying to come up with a standard response to your *fun* question. Seems I'm getting asked that a lot lately and I never really know how to respond. "So what do you like to do for fun?" is hard to answer when having fun is pretty much the overriding goal of any and all of my activities.
__________________ ~Lola~ "It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are." - e e cummings |
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02-20-2008, 10:03 PM
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__________________ “You must do what you fear" |
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02-20-2008, 10:24 PM
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My questions are: Where did you go on your last vacation? (Why? What did you do there? What especially do you like about where you were/what you were doing?) What would you most like to do with your time if money, training, and opportunity were irrelevant? If you were all-powerful, what one change would you enact in the world? And my number one despised small-talk question is, "So, what do you do?" Arghhh! (My smart-ass side always wants to respond, "About what?")
__________________ ~Lola~ "It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are." - e e cummings |
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02-20-2008, 10:27 PM
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__________________ “You must do what you fear" |
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02-20-2008, 10:29 PM
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| Does anyone agree with me that these are too personal of questions to be asking a total stranger? I think you need to build some rapport or attraction to get someone interested first. What do you guys think? |
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02-20-2008, 10:32 PM
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02-20-2008, 10:46 PM
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Li0n and Lola are introduced, shake hands, and Lola says, "So, Li0n, tell me, if you were all powerful, what change would you make in the world?" You're right - that might be a little weird right out of the gate. But when the social niceties have been exhausted and you're looking for interesting ways to continue conversation that deviate from the run-of-the-mill, there are some great ideas here. I, like most people, love meeting and talking with people who, through their interesting questions, make it appear that they are fascinated to be meeting ME.
__________________ ~Lola~ "It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are." - e e cummings |
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02-20-2008, 10:53 PM
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02-21-2008, 01:49 AM
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| I'd love to meet someone who wouldn't be weirded out by such first question but what happens to all those relationships where people are weirded? Would you just ditch them or do people eventually respond. Not to mention, these questions can be rather serious can't they? |
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02-22-2008, 02:50 PM
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02-22-2008, 03:53 PM
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| I wouldn't ask people this in a club. Nor would I ask them at the supermarket. But I'd definitely do it at a house party if I felt like it, which is sometimes. Ask the question in a friendly and playful manner. |
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02-23-2008, 07:38 PM
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Just be natural. Conversation starting questions should require no thought. Hey. How are you? .... This is a really nice place. Have you been here before? .... It's my first time too. How do you know the host? We were in school together. .... She throws great parties. Mmmm. That looks really good. Have you tried the lobster salad? I wish I could stay longer, this party is getting better and better. Did we meet at Jane's baby shower? I'm bad with names... I see you like reds. I brought a great cab sauvignon, let's try some... Things like that don't seem freakish and will start a conversation if you aren't a dud or if the person you are talking to isn't a dud. If they are, it's a quick way to know if it's time to move on to a new mingle area. Jennifer |
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02-23-2008, 08:01 PM
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| Just fyi... I've never had anyone turn and walk away when I ask the questions that I'm interested in the answer to, even when I'm not pointing a camera at them!  In fact, I've never received a response that is less than delighted. (knock wood!) |
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02-23-2008, 09:49 PM
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| Just be interesting. It doesn't matter what you say to start the conversation. You don't even need words to start the conversation. Heck, you can have a whole conversation and not say a word.
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02-23-2008, 10:25 PM
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02-23-2008, 10:32 PM
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 See how he's speaking to me non-verbally in this pic? Jennifer |