A bad case of "Too good to go..."

[danijelg]

Thank you all for your concern. There has been a shift in my decision since yesterday however. I have realized that even though the decision to break up has been made - something still didn't feel right. I couldn't put my finger on what has really happened to our relationship.

It really came down to her being sure about her feeling towards me, and me being unsure about my feelings and about what I want. Clearly we couldn't go on living like that, but simply throwing it all away can't be good either.

So I have presented her with a plan. I will move out from the apartment and live on my own for one month. During this period I will try to get in touch with myself again. Do the things I enjoy - write music, draw, read, go for long walks and bicycle rides in the nature, meditate, enjoy solitude. I will also seek professional guidance with my personal issues.

I am not expecting miracles though. I hope I will be strong enough to face myself and reach a state where I can have at least a glimpse of the life I want for myself. And than work from there with my current partner or with someone new.

I was fortunate enough that she has accepted my proposition. I have been given a chance of a lifetime and I am determined to accept it and I intend to work my ass of to use it wisely.

To answer your question [confirmed6475] - I believe that if we live consciously and sincerely there is no way of not staying friends with our former partners - it comes naturally. It took me a great deal of growing up before I could really understand this. I would like to hear other opinions on this subject, though.

[confirmed6475]

Woman's intuition.....danijelg, you are ready to move on but are having a hard time letting go of all the hard work, time, love you put into for the last nine years with your GF, huh?

Can I ask what is the understanding between the two of you as far as what you are to each other once you move out? Are you still together? Or on a break? Not together?

I can appreciate that you need time for yourself and to work on your issues. (That's definetly something on my agenda!) It takes guts to separate from the one you love and hope that you will be together sometime in the future (or not?).

Can I also say that I admire your GF for being so understanding of what you need. Is she handling this well?

[danijelg]

We have agreed that we are on a break now. My girlfriend is a very emotional person, but has a very tough shell. It's hard to tell exactly how she feels, but she is handling this very bravely and maturely.