Remember That The Tone Of Your Voice Often Conveys More Accurately What Is In Your Mi

[draag]

In a moment of conflict, a suggestion or compromise can salvage a threatened
working relationship. A discouraged team member can be motivated again through a
few carefully chosen words. In situations like these, a good leader is looking
beyond an immediate situation and acting to preserve a future benefit. But if
your voice betrays your own anger, fear, or despair, that emotion, not the
wisdom you offer, will be what others remember. Those who rise to the top in any
organisation are those who have learned to control their emotions. When you have
a leadership position, others will watch you closely for the signals you send.
You must learn to manage yourself and all the ways in which you convey messages
to others if you want to inspire them and demonstrate that you care about all
the members of your team.

"Successful People Are Average People Focused"

[JimOfferman]

In other words, if the contents of your message is dishonest, people are likely to pick up on that.

[yossarian]

Originally Posted by JimOfferman

In other words, if the contents of your message is dishonest, people are likely to pick up on that.

Or even if you have good intentions and KNOW that your emotions are not productive and want to move forward in a productive way, your emotions are still going to be shown and will betray the message you want to send.

The only way to send clear messages is to get our emotions dealt with first. We can't and shouldn't hide them. Even if we can hide them it's counterproductive to do so.

I often hear people who are trying to "do right" despite their emotions, but their emotions betray them and sabotage the positive message they are trying to ram through their mouth.

[JimOfferman]

Originally Posted by yossarian

I often hear people who are trying to "do right" despite their emotions, but their emotions betray them and sabotage the positive message they are trying to ram through their mouth.

Agreed. But that's just one example of a dishonest message

[yorik]

Originally Posted by draag

"Successful People Are Average People Focused"

That just sounds so horribly, horribly wrong.

Succesful people help average people become exceptional people.