Can he be trusted ?

[Authority]

This man is 36, married 3x, & 3 baby mothers. I broke up with this person in Aug. The person left the area in Dec. This person got married in Jan, the next month. This person left the marriage in June. Reunited with me in Aug of the same year. I find out about the marriage 1 year into our relationship. What kind of person just runs from one relationship to another. The person he married was someone he slept with ocassionally for 10 yrs. The marriage lasted 6 months. He says, he married her to see if there was something real between them. Who does that?

This man is very defensive and overly sensitive. He acts very impulsively and lives for the moment, based on his feelings.

He says for the first time in his life he has found real love with me. How do I know? This person has become very humble. He is making great strides in areas of personal growth and responsiblity. He has been nothing but, good since our reunion. He readily admits all his wrong doing and wants to move forward. I still feel like I'm living on the edge.

[Tactiger9]

This man seems to be the kind that solely relies on being in a realationship.
To be completely honest in my point of view i dont think he should be trusted as in my experiances theses people tend to stay in a realationship until they think they dont need one in which case they will move on. Then later they will realise they need a realationship to survive. If anything he isnt doing this intentionaly.

[JimOfferman]

How can we answer such a question? We could say that, statistically, chances are great that he can't be trusted now because of his past undertakings - but then statistics are all lies anyway. He can change, you know.

How do you feel about trusting him? Because that is all you can do, really: decide to trust him or not. There is no guarantee that he won't change his mind in six months time or in six years or never again.

You can decide to trust him and enjoy the relationship for as long as it lasts. Or you can decide to not trust him at all and get out.

What does your heart say?

[Authority]

Thanks for your responses they were very helpful.

[DayInTheLife]

Originally Posted by Authority

This man is 36, married 3x, & 3 baby mothers. I broke up with this person in Aug. The person left the area in Dec. This person got married in Jan, the next month. This person left the marriage in June. Reunited with me in Aug of the same year. I find out about the marriage 1 year into our relationship. What kind of person just runs from one relationship to another. The person he married was someone he slept with ocassionally for 10 yrs. The marriage lasted 6 months. He says, he married her to see if there was something real between them. Who does that?

This man is very defensive and overly sensitive. He acts very impulsively and lives for the moment, based on his feelings.

He says for the first time in his life he has found real love with me. How do I know? This person has become very humble. He is making great strides in areas of personal growth and responsiblity. He has been nothing but, good since our reunion. He readily admits all his wrong doing and wants to move forward. I still feel like I'm living on the edge.

Is this the guy who says he has proof you are cheating on you?

Jim's right, listen to your heart. From what you've said, it sounds like a no-brainer to me. But only you know best.