Rekindle the passion in LDR

[bleachjt]

Hi,

In the beginning of my LDR with my fiancee we were both so passionate about each other, but now 7 months later, she doesn't feel the the passion from me anymore. I honestly don't know what I do different now. She thinks I am bored with her, but it couldn't be further from the truth. What can I do to get the passion back when we are in a LDR?

[wolfgang]

Originally Posted by bleachjt

Hi,

In the beginning of my LDR with my fiancee we were both so passionate about each other, but now 7 months later, she doesn't feel the the passion from me anymore. I honestly don't know what I do different now. She thinks I am bored with her, but it couldn't be further from the truth. What can I do to get the passion back when we are in a LDR?

What's a LDR? Is it supposed to be LTR (long term relationship?)

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Long Distance Relationship.

[wolfgang]

Originally Posted by bleachjt

Hi,

In the beginning of my LDR with my fiancee we were both so passionate about each other, but now 7 months later, she doesn't feel the the passion from me anymore. I honestly don't know what I do different now. She thinks I am bored with her, but it couldn't be further from the truth. What can I do to get the passion back when we are in a LDR?

So LDR - long distance. Interesting, I've thought distance can make things sweeter because there would be lots of missing each other and passion would be there because of stretches of time being apart. I once read that one way to rekindle is to take the passion outside of the bedroom. Start something up outside in the woods or in the car, act like teenagers again.

[bleachjt]

Hmm, yes. It does make us miss each other like crazy, but it's hard to keep up with everything, mostly because we have our own life to live and personal troubles. Money seems to come in the way as well. I guess I have to treat it like any relationship and do small things for each other every day.

[openeyes]

I always thought I'd avoid getting into a long distance relationship, but I've found myself to be in one at the moment. It didn't start as one, rather it's just a temporary situation. We just started dating recently, near the end of my time in school and went off to New Orleans on a volunteer trip with several of my best friends right after the semester ended, spending most every moment together for a few days and loving it as the relationship developed very quickly.

We'd gone to the same school and since I just graduated this semester I'm back at my parents' home for about three months to help my dad recover from his stroke and then I plan on moving back to Chapel Hill so it will no longer be a Long Distance Relationship.

In the meantime, I plan on visiting Elle (pronounced Ellie) every couple weeks, calling daily and mailing letters to each other regularly. The letters provide us with a physical connection while we're apart, as it's something the other person wrote by hand which we can touch and hold, making it much more romantic than a simple email. Also, since I couldn't physically wake up with her in my arms this morning, I dreamt of doing so and woke up with the memory fresh in my mind Even now I find myself dreaming up little things I can do, meals I can prepare when I'm visiting at her apartment, little weekend excursions we can go on and so on. Such planning is quite fun.

[S04]

For three years I maintained a long distance relationship with my girlfriend. I lived in Northern Ireland and she lived in France. Visiting each other was costly and university commitments often kept us apart. I know all too well of the pain that comes from lying in bed at night and desperately just wanting her next to you. That was one of the things that eventually broke us up.

This is the first time I've given advice to someone on a LDR. Usually I read a post and bitterly think that it'll soon fail. I like to think I've moved past that stage now, but there's still not much I can say to help you. I do recognise the whole "you're not as interested as you used to be" thing. In my case, that meant she was worried about us not seeing each other and me wanting to see other women. All you can do is reassure her that she's special to you and remind her that you'll be together again soon.

Have you been able to make plans to move closer to each other? That's one thing that'll always spur you on. Good luck.

[Rose of Cairo]

openeyes: that's so sweet Wish you lots of happiness with Elle

Can't contribute anything meaningful to the thread though, since I've never been in a LDR.

[openeyes]

Originally Posted by Rose of Cairo

openeyes: that's so sweet Wish you lots of happiness with Elle

Aww thanks