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Old 12-13-2007, 08:15 PM   #1 (permalink)
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I'm a girl of 28 years old, who is at a turning point of her life. After my boyfriend left me this summer, I have quit my job, and so I've decided to travel in australia for a few months....(I live in switzerland).
I was a bit depressed even after I took this decision...lost in my life..but in a way i was happy about the opportunity i had to travel over the world, at last.

And suddenly the destiny put on my path this man...I didn't expect this, I fell in love at first sight, it's the fist time it happened to me...From the beginning, i had an "intuition" about him, something very special, hard to explain...(and by the way a lot of coincidences made us meet)..
Unfortunately, a few weeks later he told me he is not in love with me, that he's not ready for a stable relationship, (and that anyway i'm going to leave 3 months), bla bla blah...
The deception was so high...not only because he doesn't feel the same for me, but especially because for me this meant I had a "bad" intuition. And I'm wondering if I can trust my intuition again...So I was wrong? Can i trust me again?

i stayed almost a week at home, without going out...And one day i put my hand on one of my books, "the Celestine Prophecy"...and now I have just begun "trust your vibes"...that helps me i have to say, but I'm still wondering a lot of things...why did I have to feel something so strong for him (and still do) if it's for nothing?

If anyone want to tell me something, share an experience, please feel free, it will help me for sure.
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Old 12-13-2007, 08:25 PM   #2 (permalink)
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why did I have to feel something so strong for him (and still do) if it's for nothing?
Hi Isabelle, and welcome!

Who says it's for nothing? Strong feelings don't have to last forever, or even be reciprocated, for them to be special and wonderful in your life. Your intuition was right.... your feelings were special. His actions and feelings don't change that, because the love you feel is your love forever.

Sounds like you're still in recovery mode from the ex, so you're not really available for a LMBR, anyway, right? Think of Mr. Australia as a practice boyfriend, and be grateful to him for being what he is, and for generating what he did for you.

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The deception was so high...not only because he doesn't feel the same for me, but especially because for me this meant I had a "bad" intuition. And I'm wondering if I can trust my intuition again...So I was wrong? Can i trust me again?
Welcome to the club.
The sad thing about it is, what other direction do you have to go by...

You, though, haven't experienced all the more serious deceptive intuitions. The coincidences that made you meet don't say anything about your relationship with him. Wait until you meet the guy who tells you your own dreams as if he read the diary you wrote when you were young, wait until you meet the guy who already knows and understands you when you don't even tell him, wait until you meet the guy who by his God-given nature unwittingly in his natural speech recites a line you wrote in a love poem when you were 20...just wait, that is deceptive intuition at its height (and if there is more deceptive, I don't want to know it).

Sorry I can't help
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Perhaps your intuition's goal wasn't the man, it was experiences or something else you gained following that gut feeling about the man. It knew what would get your attention. Plenty of times I've had to let go of what I thought the outcome was supposed to be, because the journey itself, and everything learned along the way, was the goal.

If you lose your attachment to the one outcome - you with this person - can you appreciate the gifts you did get?
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Plenty of times I've had to let go of what I thought the outcome was supposed to be, because the journey itself, and everything learned along the way, was the goal.

If you lose your attachment to the one outcome - you with this person - can you appreciate the gifts you did get?
^^^ Great advice.

Profound disappointment reminds us that things aren't 'supposed' to end up any particular way. It's our expectations that hurt us.
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Plenty of times I've had to let go of what I thought the outcome was supposed to be, because the journey itself, and everything learned along the way, was the goal.

If you lose your attachment to the one outcome - you with this person - can you appreciate the gifts you did get?
Yeah, great advice! Thanks Carenkh. I should remember that more often...! (not only about men)
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Also, consider that your intuition about this guy may have been spot on, but through virtue of his free will, things did not come about as you anticipated.

Nothing is carved in stone. Not even *destiny*.

You can still trust yourself and you can still rely on your intuition for guidance. Just let go of your attachment to the outcome like carenkh said.
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