In college... friends?

[groundhog]

So I've begun to seriously wonder if I'm missing some kind of information as per being friends with guys. I live in NYC and frankly, I just don't run into guys in my college classes or elsewhere that I'm uh.. "attracted?" to as friends.

My wonderment is due to the fact that I had many friends when I was a child, best friends I thought would be best friends forever. I moved twice and made friends just fine, and slowly but surely they're all gone except my girlfriend. Things have been like this for so long that I'm not even sad about it, but clearly it's on my mind because when I watch television, like Big Shots tonight, I see the four best guy friends and I wonder what gene I'm missing.

Really, I'm a nice guy and I'm funny. The fact that I don't like football at all probably hurts... but so much so?

How might I go about fixing this in a way that won't be awkward or uncomfortable?

[JimOfferman]

Originally Posted by groundhog

So I've begun to seriously wonder if I'm missing some kind of information as per being friends with guys. I live in NYC and frankly, I just don't run into guys in my college classes or elsewhere that I'm uh.. "attracted?" to as friends.

My wonderment is due to the fact that I had many friends when I was a child, best friends I thought would be best friends forever. I moved twice and made friends just fine, and slowly but surely they're all gone except my girlfriend. Things have been like this for so long that I'm not even sad about it, but clearly it's on my mind because when I watch television, like Big Shots tonight, I see the four best guy friends and I wonder what gene I'm missing.

Really, I'm a nice guy and I'm funny. The fact that I don't like football at all probably hurts... but so much so?

How might I go about fixing this in a way that won't be awkward or uncomfortable?

How about: go to places where there are or do activities with people who you are "attracted" to as a friend? For me it really is just a matter of doing whatever I like to do and being exposed to people who like that kind of thing too. Easy!

Solo activities don't count apparently. That is, I have never made new friends sitting on my couch and reading a book. I wonder why...